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What do u see sex as 2day?

i was talkin 2 sum one who isnt goin 2 sleep wiv her b/f til marriage n i was shocked but thats her oponion

personally now adays i dont think sex is that much of a bigthing i mean look at the people who go 2 spain n shag on the beach just wonderin how important peeps see sex these days....

yer i wouldnt sleep with sum1 the first day i met but now i dont think id wait that long

p.s im not a slut mayb a bit horny but....

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think sex is still quite a big thing now but with contraception now freely avaliable and the higher status of women in this day and age a lot of the stigma has been lost (which is clearly a good thing)and this whole post sounds like a text book so i'll shutup now.......

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think sex is a very big thing.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    These days you need to have had sex to be classed a cool. ( Well thats what its like in my area)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sounds like u live in a crap area <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; j/k

    different from my social group - people here see sex still as something fun, but still special and still have respect for it. if u've had sex, well done but ur still the same person.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think sex is a highly important thing, Cheap meaningless casual sex is not something I could do. I'd like to feel some sort emotional attachment. One nighte stands and casual sex whilst maybe suited to others is not my cup of tea, I don't regret every sexual encounter I've had but I would say 95% of encounters I do regret.Persil <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im sort of in the middle cos i think personally that saving ur virginity until ur wedding nite is a bit extreeme nowadays. Couples have to be sexually compatable, so its a good idea to see if u r b4 u make such a big commitment.

    However, i still dont see sex as merely a source of pleasure, sex is special and i think that it should be with someone you love. But then not everyone finds sum1 special and everyone has sexual urges so on the other hand one nite stands can solve the urge problem.......oh damn i dont have a clue what my point/s are!!!!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I do see sex as a big thing, and i don't think waiting till your wedding night is extreme at all, it's something that I aim to do.

    but thats my way of thinking and although I have no problem with other ppls views i just can not understand how these views were formed
    Oh well <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think sex should be important, but in this day and age the "ideals" of sex for love rather than sex for pleasure have somewhat dissapered.
    I think a lot of it has something to do with the media, constant images of sex on TV have desensitised a lot of people into thinking sex isnt important or meaningful anymore, this is a shame as i think sex can be brilliant when you are with someone you love, because you aren't pressured to perform any differently and you feel more at ease with yourself and your partner.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think i cud w8 until my weddin nite

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've got friends with lots of different views on this and I understand all of their viewpoints, though I don't agree with most of them. Obviously <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
    I don't know what my viewpoint would be if my life hadn't run to this point the way it did. But right now, I'm confused. I mean, sometimes, I see sex as something just meaningless and I don't even want it, or I feel like it wouldn't matter who I slept with coz I ain't worth nething neway.
    But um.. coz I'm with somebody, and he's v special, I guess I want to wait, coz I want it to be right. I want to be able to look back and know that when it happened, I was completely ready and comfortable with the situation.
    I guess that alot of issues to do with your opinion of sex, depend on your opinion of yourself etc
    Please somebody tell me this made sense!!

    honey help me out of this mess..i'm a stranger to myself..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru

    If someone wants to wait until their wedding night, I think it's great. I have friends who are doing that. In fact, I half-wish I had. But it definitely should be with a person you love. I don't agree with just going out and sleeping with someone you picked up in a bar (or on a Spanish beach *lol*), but that's my opinion and I don't have a problem with people who do that.

    Society's changed a lot. Let's not forget that religiously speaking, sex is supposed to be reserved for marriage. That's the whole point of it. But I read somewhere in a newspaper survey that only 9% of people in this country class themselves as religious, go to church regularly, and think relgious beliefs are important.

    So I would say that has a lot to do with it! Fewer people are interested in God, and therefore see sex in a different light.

    How things have changed. Not necessarily for the better, either.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by SusieLovesCalvin:
    I mean, sometimes, I see sex as something just meaningless and I don't even want it, or I feel like it wouldn't matter who I slept with coz I ain't worth nething neway.
    ....I guess that alot of issues to do with your opinion of sex, depend on your opinion of yourself etc

    I think that makes perfect sense Kayleigh <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Sometimes I think I'd just like to lose my virginity in a one night stand, but only if I didn't have to remember the act itself, because like Persil said, "Cheap meaningless casual sex is not something I could do"....
    well it's not something I'd want to remember doing, and definitely not something I'd want to make a habit of.

    Ideally I would leave it until I was engaged, probably not the wedding night though because if you set a date and hype it up like that it's more likely to be a disappointment. But as long as it was with someone I love, even a one night stand would be fine by me.

    [This message has been edited by wildchild (edited 29-04-2001).]
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    ive never believed in waiting to have sex in marriage. i have a friend whose dad is a minister and was going to wait till she was married, but she changed her mind and slept with her first serious bf after about 4 months.

    i dont see sex as something you should only share with one person (if i did id be pretty screwed.. oops excuse the pun)... i think its part of a loving relationship, you dont have to be in love but i think that if i had a one night stand with someone, especially to lose my virginity, i would build up hopes and expectations of it being more than that and meeting the guy again or something.

    i dont think anyone should feel pressured to get rid of their virginity, sort of like you sound you feel wildchild. you should just wait until you feel comfortable and ready with a person to sleep with them. okay you migh not remember every detail about losing your virginity, i know i dont, but i know it was with someone i loved and trusted and was comfortable with. i was reayd after 5 months id say in that relationship, it was my first relationship of any kind. we didnt sleep together until after 10 months, but thats another story. but with my current boyfriend we had only really been together for 2 days before we slept together. it was his first time too.

    so i think it depends on the relationship, as to how long you wait, and the person... just because you have sex with one person it doesnt mean you have to have sex with the next within the same amount of time or less or whatever, you can be ready with one person but not another, i thought that when i read that post by helly just now.

    id never thought oh ill only have one or maybe 2 sexual partners, i had the idea id sleep with more people than that and never held it as an ideal or something that should be svaed for one person. but i believe that its something special to be shared with someone you're close to.

    ill stop my waffling now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Girl-From-Mars:
    ive never believed in waiting to have sex in marriage. i have a friend whose dad is a minister and was going to wait till she was married, but she changed her mind and slept with her first serious bf after about 4 months.

    i dont see sex as something you should only share with one person (if i did id be pretty screwed.. oops excuse the pun)... i think its part of a loving relationship, you dont have to be in love but i think that if i had a one night stand with someone, especially to lose my virginity, i would build up hopes and expectations of it being more than that and meeting the guy again or something.

    i dont think anyone should feel pressured to get rid of their virginity, sort of like you sound you feel wildchild. you should just wait until you feel comfortable and ready with a person to sleep with them. okay you migh not remember every detail about losing your virginity, i know i dont, but i know it was with someone i loved and trusted and was comfortable with. i was reayd after 5 months id say in that relationship, it was my first relationship of any kind. we didnt sleep together until after 10 months, but thats another story. but with my current boyfriend we had only really been together for 2 days before we slept together. it was his first time too.

    so i think it depends on the relationship, as to how long you wait, and the person... just because you have sex with one person it doesnt mean you have to have sex with the next within the same amount of time or less or whatever, you can be ready with one person but not another, i thought that when i read that post by helly just now.

    id never thought oh ill only have one or maybe 2 sexual partners, i had the idea id sleep with more people than that and never held it as an ideal or something that should be svaed for one person. but i believe that its something special to be shared with someone you're close to.

    ill stop my waffling now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    she says as mark is pleasuring her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; sorry, couldn't resist <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think sex has to be driven by love. without the emotion, then the act, however pleasurable, is meaningless. (and sometimes dangerous.)

    when is completely up to you. the person i love wants to wait for marriage, and because i'm in love, it's worth waiting for. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    sorry for the afterschool special opinion. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Mega Poster Posts: 2,822
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    she says as mark is pleasuring her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; sorry, couldn't resist <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;



    shuddup you. he went home at 3pm anyway <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;


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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd split sex into 2 catagories..

    Lustful Sex and Loving Sex...

    Lustful Sex is non-comitted, one night stand sort of style.. and Loving is with someone who you love and is a lot slower possibly more sensual.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I once thought sex was really important and was finally pressured into having it when I was 14 by a creep (see "how old were you" post). After that I decided sex wasn't a big deal (it was the only way I could deal with what had happened). So I slept with an even bigger creep, just to have sex and have fun. That was alright for a while but I felt bad and got into a serious relationship with someone and we went out for 6 months. Then we broke up and right away I slept with another creep. The pattern continues... Today's my 6 month anniversary with my current b/f... it's a great, loving relationship and the sex with him is far better than with any of the creeps. Now that I'm with him I feel bad for sleeping around a little, and I realize that sex should be something special. However, my self esteem was at an all time low and in order to feel good about myself I had to have someone lust after me.... If only I hadn't been dumped a minute after I first had sex, then I would've seen things differently....
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Appologies for not noticing this one sooner. I guess this was what I was getting at in my thread.

    Nice to see im not the only one who doesnt agree with going out shagging everynight as nice as though it may be.
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