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Serious Talks!
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Okay seriously need your help because i am so scared!
Last night, me & my boyfriend had our first argument but we've only been together for a week so its not like we're serious but he's already getting jealous of me going out with my mates & he told me he loved me last nite! He's going too fast & i've told him we need a talk tonight!
Thing is, i've never had a serious talk in my life! I usually avoid having them because i'm so rubbish at dealing with them. But this cant be avoided really...
Does anyone have any tips or anything about my 'serious talk' tonight?? :nervous:
Last night, me & my boyfriend had our first argument but we've only been together for a week so its not like we're serious but he's already getting jealous of me going out with my mates & he told me he loved me last nite! He's going too fast & i've told him we need a talk tonight!
Thing is, i've never had a serious talk in my life! I usually avoid having them because i'm so rubbish at dealing with them. But this cant be avoided really...
Does anyone have any tips or anything about my 'serious talk' tonight?? :nervous:
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!!! :eek: !!! the dudes a loser! lol
nobody can fall in love in a week, even if they think so its not love because you cant possibly know all that much about a person in one week.
i say dump him and get someone else as he'll be wanting kids and marriage by the end of this week and you'll be retired with a villa in spain by the end of march
If he can't accept these things then it really is up to you to make the decision as to whether you want to be with him or not, the way I see it you definitely don't want to stop going out with friends for someone who you've only been in a relationship with for one week, but just see how he responds and then its up to you.
Good luck :thumb:
If he's losing it within a week think of what he'll be like in 6 months.
Sounds like a right dick to me. Fuck him off
I can't agree with that (not that you should care). I mean, what if a guy had fallen in love with her quite some time ago (for example 2-3 months ago)? He doesn't have to start loving her now, because he already does. That's just my opinion on this.
I fell in love with a girl, and told her that 8 months later. I was mad about her. We didn't get together, but if we had, should she have just dumped me because I "already loved" her after a week? I've loved her for 8 months before that!
How can you love somebody before you really know anything about them? if you think its love after 1 week you're wrong - its just lust.
But then it might not even be lust, could just be that the guy is so desperate for someone to love him that with only the slightest of interest he's willing to throw his life into it. or then again he could just be telling you he loves you to get your guard down to sleep with you...one of the many tricks guys use to get girls into bed.
Of course you can know the person even more than you should if you've been good friends for two years beforehand. So, it might be rare, but what I felt was really not lust. I knew her good sides, and her bad sides, and I accepted them. I knew her fully as a person. But you can achieve that in less than 2 years. So, why not? If you go out with someone intensively (as friends) over a period of about 6 months, and have those deep one on one conversations, where you pour your thoughts and emotions out to the other person, it's quite possible that you'll know the person very well.
For serious talks, be honest, clear, and don't waffle off a point you're trying to make. Leave silences to let the other person absorb what you're saying. Give them time to speak as well.
I had the serious chat with him, and he said he was drunk so i've given him another chance & said that he has to accept that i want to go out & have fun with my friends too as well as him & i also said that him telling me he loved me really freaked me out!!
He doesnt seem like the type of guy to say i love you just to get me in bed!!
Anywayz, thankyou for all your comments
Any help would be very much appreciated
Thanks
I asked him to come around to mine & i just told him how i felt!!
When it comes to sorting things out, you have to do it whether you want to or not or else nothing is going to change!