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insecure
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i could really do with some help. my fella told me last nite that im insecure
i dont want to be. but dont knowhw to solve it. can anyone help me? :crying:
i dont want to be. but dont knowhw to solve it. can anyone help me? :crying:
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See, I KNOW I'm insecure, but I'm trying to stop being. Tis difficult, and I can't really explain how I'm doing it, I don't know myself. I don't even know if it's working
i dont even know what it means properly
Also, you seem quite shocked that he said that...do you feel that you have no confidence or any of the things he said? If you don't, the problem might be more how you come across to other people (I have that one too, but I can't tell you anything on how to solve that!).
i feel safe at home.
i just dont understand
It might be how he perceives you...ask him what it is that makes him think you have no confidence and that you're insecure. 'Cause I can't see it myself.
i want to talk to him about it more but i dont want argue and thats what hapens.
He says sumin i take it wrong then i say sumin he takes i wong. i love him wit al y hart dont wana looooooose him.
If you don't want to lose him, then you have to do this, and you know it. Of course, it may be inevitable, in which case you can't do very much about it. Just don't go chasing after him and obsessing over him, I learnt that the hard way.
PM me if you need help or anything x
You have to try and remember that your boyfriend is with you because he wants to be, no other reason. So that is something to try and remember whenever you start worrying.
You have to talk to him about this as you obviously don't think you are that insecure. Ask him why he thinks you are insecure. I know you don't really want to do this as it may end up in another argument but from the sounds of it this little accusation is starting to eat you up.
Confidence is a horrible thing. If you lack it it can make so many problems, however, if you have too much it normally makes you an idiot. There is a fine balance to be struck.
TBH it doesn't sound like you are insecure to me, it sounds like a naff, fly away comment that your boyfriend said. And that has got you thinking.
i wanna talk to him about it but we spoke abou tit last nite. i know hes with me because he wants to be and we spoke about it and we are happy other then the fact hat only lately we been arguing. Its a distance thing.
I wouldn't worry about it