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I've been with my girlfriend for nearly two years.
She's on the pill and we don't use condoms.
Neither of us had any problems STD/STIs before.
On thursday it was her birthday and i was giving her a "birthday treat"....
Basically going down on her and fingering her. Also messing about with champagne which she got on her crotch area (which made it sting cos she shaved her pubes earlier that day and had a bit of a shaving rash). We had vaginal sex later on in the day as well
She was a little sore the next day (friday). We had vaginal sex friday night as well, she said it was slightly uncomfortable to start with, but once we got going she was enjoying it. The soreness got worse on saturday, but since we planned going out to celebrate her birthday we went out anyway and she got quite drunk. On sunday she got a temperature and was feeling sick (so i thought it was just a hangover) but by sunday night she developed and awful rash down there and was in pain. I thought it was just champagne on the shaving rash that caused it. She insisted on going to doctors, and since it was sunday night i had to take her to A&E. They didn't help much, took blood pressure/pulse/temperature. Took a urine test, which tested negative for pregnancy. She said it really hurts to pee and the nurse said it looks like herpes, go visit GUM clinic. She couldn't sleep last night, was crying in agony. Tried taking a salty lukewarm bath as recommended, but that made it worse.
She's been taking paracetamol and ibuprofen all day today, can't walk or pee without severe pain. She's all swollen and sore and got blisters and ulcers down there.
I took a day off today and took her to GUM clinic (had to use wheelchair cos she can't walk). The doctor said it looks like herpes, gave her cream and tablets and said to carry on with painkillers. We came back home, she's been taking the anti-virus tablets, putting the cream on, taking more painkillers.
She can't sleep, can't lie down, can't pee, feeling sick. Getting really stressed and exhausted through pain, screaming and crying as the painkillers don't seem to be taking any effect (and she already exceeded the daily maximum). She can't find a position where she's comfortable at to relax and go to sleep.
I've been reading about herpes and it said anyone can have it without knowing it and the virus can outbreak for a variety of reasons (run down/stress/friction from sex or tight clothes/lowered immune system (we were out for a meal on thursday and out on saturday and it was cold both nights and now she's got swollen glans and temperature as well....so everything put together gave her this)
i know it's supposed to be painful, but anyone who's had it, can you please share your experiences. Because it seems to be worse than what it's supposed to be from reading leaflets from GUM clinic and researching on the internet.
She's literally sweating, screaming, crying sobbing, gritting her teeth in severe pain and nothing is helping.
I'm sorry that i've gone on for so long (thought might as well tell everything), but any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you. :banghead:
She's on the pill and we don't use condoms.
Neither of us had any problems STD/STIs before.
On thursday it was her birthday and i was giving her a "birthday treat"....
Basically going down on her and fingering her. Also messing about with champagne which she got on her crotch area (which made it sting cos she shaved her pubes earlier that day and had a bit of a shaving rash). We had vaginal sex later on in the day as well
She was a little sore the next day (friday). We had vaginal sex friday night as well, she said it was slightly uncomfortable to start with, but once we got going she was enjoying it. The soreness got worse on saturday, but since we planned going out to celebrate her birthday we went out anyway and she got quite drunk. On sunday she got a temperature and was feeling sick (so i thought it was just a hangover) but by sunday night she developed and awful rash down there and was in pain. I thought it was just champagne on the shaving rash that caused it. She insisted on going to doctors, and since it was sunday night i had to take her to A&E. They didn't help much, took blood pressure/pulse/temperature. Took a urine test, which tested negative for pregnancy. She said it really hurts to pee and the nurse said it looks like herpes, go visit GUM clinic. She couldn't sleep last night, was crying in agony. Tried taking a salty lukewarm bath as recommended, but that made it worse.
She's been taking paracetamol and ibuprofen all day today, can't walk or pee without severe pain. She's all swollen and sore and got blisters and ulcers down there.
I took a day off today and took her to GUM clinic (had to use wheelchair cos she can't walk). The doctor said it looks like herpes, gave her cream and tablets and said to carry on with painkillers. We came back home, she's been taking the anti-virus tablets, putting the cream on, taking more painkillers.
She can't sleep, can't lie down, can't pee, feeling sick. Getting really stressed and exhausted through pain, screaming and crying as the painkillers don't seem to be taking any effect (and she already exceeded the daily maximum). She can't find a position where she's comfortable at to relax and go to sleep.
I've been reading about herpes and it said anyone can have it without knowing it and the virus can outbreak for a variety of reasons (run down/stress/friction from sex or tight clothes/lowered immune system (we were out for a meal on thursday and out on saturday and it was cold both nights and now she's got swollen glans and temperature as well....so everything put together gave her this)
i know it's supposed to be painful, but anyone who's had it, can you please share your experiences. Because it seems to be worse than what it's supposed to be from reading leaflets from GUM clinic and researching on the internet.
She's literally sweating, screaming, crying sobbing, gritting her teeth in severe pain and nothing is helping.
I'm sorry that i've gone on for so long (thought might as well tell everything), but any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you. :banghead:
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And I thought it was caught off somebody.
Poor you - and your girlfriend - it sounds like you have had a horrible couple of days. I think you've done all the right things by getting advice quickly and reading all the literature you are given. However, it sounds like you've still got lots of unanswered questions that have probably cropped up after seeing the specialist. I'd make another appointment and this time write down all the questions you need answering. Why is your girlfriend in so much pain, is this normal, how long will it last, how could she have been infected etc etc.
Although some user here may be able to give you some personal experiences, it's only really a speciailist who can give you peace of mind.
You could also call one of the following helplines for instant advice:
Brook Advisory Centres
Advice, counselling and medical help around contraception, pregnancy, abortion and sexual health.
Telephone: 0800 0185023
www.brook.org.uk
Family Planning Association
Information service on family planning and all aspects of sexual health.
Helpline: 0845 3101334
www.fpa.org.uk
And read up more here:
Our herpes factsheet
International Herpes Alliance
Hope she's feeling better soon
I have heard that the first attack of herpes is the worst, but any further attacks arent usually as bad. Usually the first outbreak appears 2- 10 days after infection
http://www.niaid.nih.gov/factsheets/stdherp.htm
I would get to the doctors yourself too, as you are more than likely to have caught it too.
They've looked at her again, doubled her medication and prescribed stronger painkillers and sleeping tablets (cos she can't sleep because of the pain).
They said she should get better within 48 hours, if not, contact them again and they'll put her up in the ward.
We both had coldsores (herpes type I) in the past, but i haven't gone down on her while having a cold sore. We both have another appointment on the 23rd so we can have a full series of tests carried out on both of us. Until then probably hold off the sex for a while, as even when she gets better in 5-10 days time her pill might have been affected, by the medication and throwing up. And we don't know who's the initial carrier, so until we get tested we can't be sure. But there's such a variety of things that could have caused it. The doctor said that with her being run down and stressed at work, simple thing like that could have set it off, and with all the other things described above put together it kicked off.
Doctor said the first is the worst. Might never come back again, but even if it does, it'll be nowhere near as bad as this. Also that some people are immune to it and even though they're exposed to it, they might contract the virus but there won't be an outbreak.
Oh well. we'll wait and see.
Probably hold off the sex?
:eek2:
Just a question cherridrop, when I was doing work experience in hospitals, I wasn't allowed to shadow intimate examinations because of my age at the time (16), is it just pictures you have access to or are you allowed to sit in on consultations etc, just interested.