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How many of you would consider having an abortion??
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[This message has been edited by Fab_UKgirlie (edited 30-08-2001).]
3 years ago i was seeing this bloke well he was a complete arsole looking back now but at the time i thought he was the best thing since sliced bread i mean he was a sort and i was just amazed how he would be with sum 1 like me u know that sort if thing!
anyways i was with him for about 5 weeks he was just using me for sex and i was lapping it up cos i was 17 and just loved being with him but i knew deep down that we wernt gona have a future anyways i fell pregnant!
i absolutely shit myself i didnt know what to do who to tell in the end i broke down to my mum after about 1 and a half months she knew anyways as i was putting on weight fast, so i thought about it and to be honest i wanted it but then thought bout the future and when the kid wanted to know his dad um u know that sort of stuff and i just went to the doctor after 3 months and after careful consideration had the abortion!
i didnt ever see the dad again and he still to this day doesnt even know i know thats wrong but i thought that was the best thing. still think about it u know when u are walking down the street and see a baby and shite but i think it was the best thing as i was in college and wouldnt have had the funds to bring up a baby!!
um so wats up genie are u preganant if you dont mind me asking???
I think from a new childs perspective, if the mother or father aren't ready then they shouldn't have a child, after all you've got to think about the standard of living the child is going to get once born.
Children are a big commitment, personally if I ever do have any (and thats probably quite slim in the next 5 years) then I would make sure I was in a suitable position finantially and mentally... I'd want the child to have the best upbringing possible.
Its better to have an abortion than risk giving the child a bad upbringing, unless your ready you shouldn't have kids... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
[This message has been edited by badben (edited 30-08-2001).]
I agree with the comments some other people have made about money and stuff, but until u r in that situation it can b hard 2 say.
The only advice I would give 2 anyone thinking about this option is b ready 4 the after affects.
If my child asked me then I'd be honest with them but I don't honestly think it would cause that many problems, its not like I'm going to be flipping between males and females is it?
When (and if) I have kids then I will have settled down with the person I choose to be with and my sexuality would be irelevent as I would only be interested in that person.
I don't think the child would get much hassle either, for a start the other kids probably wouldn't even know because I'd be with my wife or whatever all the time and on top of that if you think how relaxed attitudes have become over the last 4 years then I can't see it being a big deal in 10 years or so. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
fair enough....I guess you're right about relaxed attitudes as well. I don't think you'd have a problem at all so long as you were faithful to your partner which I guess is no different to heterosexual people.
I've always been a firm believer in being faithful, I don't cheat and don't tolorate cheating, just the way I am... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I always thought that if your a nice person then what goes around comes around (eventually.. I hope) but you know what the real world is like... <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif">
As I was telling a mate last night, unfortuantly nice people often finish last or get walked over... its a shame..
If I thought I could cope on my own and give it a good up - bringing then Id go ahead and have the baby.
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they have a very short time to make up there minds, and are clouded by facts and satistics, which I m sure mean nothing at the time. what I mean is this is a unfair question to ask unless it is relevant at the time.
wise men talk because they have somthing to say, fools talk because they have to say somthing.
Nah i'm not pregnant, I had a scare last week and it made me think about what I would do!
I was only asking what peoples opinions of abortion were as I know some people are against it.
I did consider abortion when I found out I was pregnant with Liam (as bad as that may seem to some people!). I even got an appointment for a consultation and went halfway there, but knew in my heart I couldnt do it without wanting to kill myself afterwards!
I have nothing against abortion though, as long as its the right decision for the person involved and isnt used as a form of contraception repeatedly. I have to say also that if I hadnt considered all the options and just gone ahead with having the baby not even thinking sensible about abortion, then I dont think it would have been a mature or realistic way of looking at the situation.
When u get pregnant young I think its vital u weigh up all your options and dont just think 'Im against abortion and want the baby' when u aint even considered everything that comes with it...and theres a fucking lot that comes with having a baby!