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trapped
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I feel kinda trapped in my own life, my interests dont seem to match up with anyone elses.
I dont enjoy clubbing and I dont enjoy the pub. At the age of 20 its almost unheard of, I dont enjoy the smokey atmosphere, the music so loud half the quality is lost to static, I feel constantly at threat that im gonna look at someone the wrong way and there gonna take it offensively and I havent got a taste for alcohol - ive tried it and the taste just wont come i'd rather just have a glass of lemonade. I have no interest what so ever in getting drunk, the more I drink just makes me feel tired and I end up just wanting to go home!
Ive tried liking it, I really have and I really dont understand the obsession everyone has? They go to the same places, same drinks, with the same inflated prices in which you come away with nothing but a headache. I look at other people getting drunk and I just really dont have any impulse to look as stupid as they do, and its so unattractive I gringe everytime. I dont understand how they enjoy it, i want to enjoy it i really do it just doesnt come.
Now I know im not a boring person like im sounding, I enjoy sports, I enjoy trying new things, I enjoy skiing, canoeing, reading, going to the movies etc etc etc I enjoy socialising though i find it hard, appoaching new people never comes easy to me but once I get to know them and I gain a little confidence it gets better.
Now the problem is im trapped, the friends I have, all they seem to enjoy is going out and getting drunk, now call me sad if you want, but its just boring, I want to do something active something worth while, i hear so many variations of the line "i was so out of it last night, i was mashed" so many times im tired, fed up, none of my friends want to do anything else, anything i suggest is never worth trying. Ive tried going to a few clubs (sports) and things to try and find some people with common interests but its hard when they all have there friends with them, and im there on my tod, looking stupid.
Anyway I cant help but feel trapped, I plod through my boring life, knowing what I want to do but not knowing how to get there, wishing just wishing i'll stumble into someone whos common line isnt "i was totally smashed last night".........
ps im sorry for those who enjoy clubbing - its just not my cup of tea and i just so want to meet someone who is on the same wave length
I dont enjoy clubbing and I dont enjoy the pub. At the age of 20 its almost unheard of, I dont enjoy the smokey atmosphere, the music so loud half the quality is lost to static, I feel constantly at threat that im gonna look at someone the wrong way and there gonna take it offensively and I havent got a taste for alcohol - ive tried it and the taste just wont come i'd rather just have a glass of lemonade. I have no interest what so ever in getting drunk, the more I drink just makes me feel tired and I end up just wanting to go home!
Ive tried liking it, I really have and I really dont understand the obsession everyone has? They go to the same places, same drinks, with the same inflated prices in which you come away with nothing but a headache. I look at other people getting drunk and I just really dont have any impulse to look as stupid as they do, and its so unattractive I gringe everytime. I dont understand how they enjoy it, i want to enjoy it i really do it just doesnt come.
Now I know im not a boring person like im sounding, I enjoy sports, I enjoy trying new things, I enjoy skiing, canoeing, reading, going to the movies etc etc etc I enjoy socialising though i find it hard, appoaching new people never comes easy to me but once I get to know them and I gain a little confidence it gets better.
Now the problem is im trapped, the friends I have, all they seem to enjoy is going out and getting drunk, now call me sad if you want, but its just boring, I want to do something active something worth while, i hear so many variations of the line "i was so out of it last night, i was mashed" so many times im tired, fed up, none of my friends want to do anything else, anything i suggest is never worth trying. Ive tried going to a few clubs (sports) and things to try and find some people with common interests but its hard when they all have there friends with them, and im there on my tod, looking stupid.
Anyway I cant help but feel trapped, I plod through my boring life, knowing what I want to do but not knowing how to get there, wishing just wishing i'll stumble into someone whos common line isnt "i was totally smashed last night".........
ps im sorry for those who enjoy clubbing - its just not my cup of tea and i just so want to meet someone who is on the same wave length
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wish i could tell you a good way to meet people who's main pre-occupation in life is not getting drunk, but i haven't figured it out myself. i can't confess to not enjoying getting slammed once in a while. once, maybe twice a month if it is really bad, is my limit. if you don't like listening to your friends telling about how they were drunk then just wait because eventually they will grow up.
best of luck.
cheers for the support, just wanted to write down and say something before i explode : /
maybe see if theres anyone else who feels the same way?
im ploding though, I am trying to join like groups/society things but its kinda hard, usually people go with a mate/friend and its hard trying to move into a group of people who already know each other......ah well hopefully something will pop eventually
thanks guys
I'm desperate to join a canoe club in my area. I wanna join the Windsor canoe club but thier website is so tripe I can't be bothered to follow everything on the phone (cus the phone scares me).
My goal for now is to compete in the Olympics in UK in 2015 or whatever it was with huge shoulders
I've been ok with ym self confidence, tho. I'm 19 and my self confidence and socialising is easy now. I spose...I still can't chat girls up with complete confidence like I used to.
I rarely go out drinking but I do enjoy a quiet cold one in a local pub with the best mate. That's enjoying the time...no loud music nor drunkin twats you don't even know trying to talk to you.
I used to work at a bowling alley and that did MIRACLES for my ego so if it helps...join the staff at a bowling alley!
I would prefer to have a laugh with a group of friends rather then have to find them through the fog and piss-eyes of a club at half 2 in the mornin...
We're totally on the same wavelength, buddy!
It's stupid, some of the best people I've ever met are tee-totallers. They're more interesting because they don't need drink to have a good time, and they do things other than drink and have sex.
Are you at uni? If you are there are loads of societies and things where drinking and clubbing are not the be-all and end-all.
nice to know im not the only one : /
im in uni but im currently on placement so i cant go to the societies/clubs
try salsa dancing or something like that
The problem is, knowing im not the only one who doesnt like pubs and clubs, how are you meant to get into contact with like minded people? Since by nature we like to stay in! Oh its just a circle........
We are trapped! :P
B cool...
really... you are just original
and I believe there is many ppl who says they like clubbing just to fit in... be glad you don't do that
I'm 17, and, @ my age, one is supposed to desire clubbing every week... well, once a month it too much... and I go only when is someone's birthday... so... don't say you are not normal, in that case I am not too...
it's true.
i don't drink, and don't enjoy clubbing, but i'll happily sit in a pub chatting over coke and crisps.
but most of the times i see my friends it's just to do random things. shop, meet for a 'coffee' (i don't drink coffee either - hehe), go round to theirs and watch bad films, go to the cinema.
if your friends only ever go clubbing, they must be really chuffing boring. maybe that's your problem.