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Rape and it's consequences.
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Please read this:
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/printFriendly/0,,1-7-1398770,00.html
Just wanted to share this story with y'all, it's so beautiful and inspiring, i don't think i could be that brave in the same situation...
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/printFriendly/0,,1-7-1398770,00.html
Just wanted to share this story with y'all, it's so beautiful and inspiring, i don't think i could be that brave in the same situation...
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i couldn't do the same in her position though, i have to admit. i wouldn't see it as killing 'my innocent child'. i would see it as solving a problem.
What worries me is how the pro-life lobby will (and have) hijacked this story.
After all, women who are raped can't really speak for themselves; they don't know what they are doing and although rape is a violation of their body - abortion would be an even bigger violation! (Have even read people on lj stating that abortion due to rape is worse than the rape itself). :rolleyes:
Personally I think making the decision to have an abortion in such a circumstance would be equally as brave.
It is wonderful to see her husband stand by her though, many men wouldn't and I can understand why.
True, whether you choose to have your rapists baby or an abortion, they are both imposed on you on top of the awful act of rape.
Nevertheless, although rape and the subsequent abortion would stay with a person for the rest of their life, I think it is much braver to have the baby, and deal with the mutiple issue that arise from that, not just the act of giving birth to it, but raising it and loving it so much.
Even if they don't tell her she'll find out. The parents names are printed for all to see. If they don't tell her then I'm sure some cruel kid will do it one day.
having the baby, and having an abortion on a baby that itself had done nothing wrong, are both as equally harrowing choices to make
as long as she believes in what shes doing, good for her
pro-life people will jump on this like wildfire
(Can we be sure that the rapist was the father?)
That doesn't mean other people aren't going to have opinions on the matter and speak their minds about it. It's absurd not to expect that or ask people to do otherwise.
saying the wrong things, not necessarily in your eyes, but saying the wrong thing on here can potentially hurt a rape victim very much, and things get heated easily in here, plus in here there are a lot of people who *MUST BE RIGHT* and tend not to have informed opinions
yus.
because the woman and her husband are both white, the rapist is black and the child is mixed race.
and they already have told the daughter about what happened. she's only nine though. maybe a bit young to really understand...
I had a friend at school who was adopted and he reacted really badly when he was told - he was about 15 at the time. But being told that your father raped your mother. I can't imagine what effect being told that would have.
I have read on to discover the child already knows, but what I was suggesting is that this case has been reported and the names of the mother and (non biological) father given. With it being common knowledge surely some kid or another would tell her anyway, as kids do. Y'know, one parent lets it slip about such-and-such up at the school, a child overhears, spreads the gossip... I wasn't referring at all to a birth certificate of any kind.
from what i hear the consquences are veyr long lasting and come in phases, silly things can remind the victim of the situation, a person who looks like the rapist, or the setting etc etc. i dont think its something you can ever get over.
as for the abortion side of it, you cant really know how youd feel unless put in that situation... sometimes it can scare the victim so much, it was obviously unplanned, and they may not want to bring a child into the world that reminds them of the rape, or they may be too young (they feel) to have a child etc etc
its a tough one though.
Of course you can have an opinion on something like that. I'm sure most normal people are of the opinion that rape = not a good thing. Are you suggesting we can't have that opinion unless we've been through it?
I think you're confusing 'having an opinion' with 'knowing how we'd feel'