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reading each others emails
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do you and your partner read each others emails?
My Partner, last week read my emails without asking me and for some reason i have reacted quite bad to this. I have nothing to hide from him but it made me feel he was checking up on me
My Partner, last week read my emails without asking me and for some reason i have reacted quite bad to this. I have nothing to hide from him but it made me feel he was checking up on me
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But generally no.
And if my partner would do something like that behind my back I would be a little displeased as it might suggest that he doesn't trust me.
I don't either, i've always wondered what people ment by that actually, are they just like your old ones which you don't mind getting ruined if you erm have an accident or something?
:yes:
Besides, I have no interesting emails due to lack of friends and life
Malt Munk xxx
but if there is something to hide it can make things bad
I think its ok to read them as long as the other person knows that u do it.
im not makiing much sense
however, id never ever give him my hotmail password. sounds stupid, cos ive got nothing to hide, but my first b.f was a computer geek+i made the mistake of telling him my password. he then went into my account when we broke up, deleted alot of very important emails+sent abusive emails to all my friends and family, about personal things id made the mistake of telling him when we were together.
i know my current b,f would never do that, but its surprising what people can do when they're angry, and after what happened i cant trust anyone with something so personal (although i wish i could )
We read each other's texts all the time tho, we're just nosey buggers, he he!
SBG
A couple of weeks ago, I was looking thru his inbox on his mobile (he was sat next to me and could see what I was doing) and there were about ten messages from me and one really old one he'd kept from his ex, which I didn't read (I've got no idea what it was about or what it said). This weekend, I looked again (I'm actually looking to see which msgs from me he has kept - and it's really odd ones too!) and commented that he'd deleted the one from his ex. He seemed surprised I didn't know what it was about - he thought I'd have read it! I honestly have no interest in anything she says, so why should I have read the message?! There are messages on my phone which I've asked him not to read (I've deleted the no. so there's no name on the msg, just the no. it came from) which are actually from an ex (which he knows) - have only kept them because they make me laugh, but I'd still feel it an invasion of privacy if he was to read them, they're a kind of insight into a person I used to be but aren't anymore...
Anyway, I'm just rambling now! Sorry! :rolleyes:
It's like someone opening your letters, or at least going through a pile of your letters. They're personal. They may not contain anything embarassing, but that's not the point. It's like having someone go through your diary.
It not the fact i have anything to hide, its just some emails can be interpreted the wrong way, and also some hold personal information that my friends have sent me, the kind of thing maybe they wouldnt want my partner to know.
all in all there is no harm in looking if you ask first, and there is no need to get jelouls if there is stuff from ex's. Just remember you are with them now, not their ex make the most of it and be happy