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Going to uni with a mate
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Has anybody done this? What were your experiences?
I'm thinking of going to uni with my best mate next year but I'm worried that we are going to drift apart.
I'm thinking of going to uni with my best mate next year but I'm worried that we are going to drift apart.
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I don't think isolating ourselves would be not too much of a problem - we'd go out together and make friends together. Well, that's what I'll hope will happen.
I don't currently have any friends other than him. He is more important to me than even my family.
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Starting at university away from everyone and everything you know is a good opportunity for you to get to know more people other than him. Stay in contact, yes-phone, text, email, meet up. I personally think that you should go where you want to go to university, and not let what someone else is doing or wants to do dictate what you do.
Living in different halls and doing different courses will probably ensure this doesnt become a problem.
On the positive side hopefully youll both meet lots of people and make a huge group of friends.
But dont just go to a uni cos your mate is, go because you want to go there.
Gook luck with it all.:)
I think having a friend there may actually be more of an isolating experience, as people are more likely not to make the effort to come and talk to you if they get the impression you already have a close friend and aren't interested in meeting anyone else. I know this may not necessarily be true, but it is very easy for people to get that impression of you.
Because the first week can be scary, you may find you are more inclined to hang around with your mate most of the time. Because of this, although the two of you may meet other people, you may find you are treated less like an individual and more like a pair of people - it might be more difficult to make new friends for yourself because people see you as part of a pair.
I'm just being cynical though, it might turn out to be great for you. I think perhaps in your first year though it would be a better idea to stay in different halls, that way you're more likely to socialise with other people and make new friends, then you can meet up with your mate at different times rather than having them there on every occasion.
I thought i was going to be with her all the time like we were in college. It never happened.
There's nothing wrong with going uni with your mate, but trust me, u will hardly see him/her.
After reading them, I still think it would be good to go with my mate. I think what we need to do is sit down and have a good chat so that we can take precautions to not isolate ourselves from the new people around us but not loose our friendship. It may be difficult to do, but if we're careful, we should be able to have the best of both.
We hardly see eachother right now because he lives 40 miles away from me and yet we still maintain a good friendship. We'll actually probably get to see more of eachother at uni as we will be much closer together.
Which Uni you wanting to go to?