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Hey all!
Well, this isn't quite an ordinary how-to-pull thread...
I have some questions for you guys (and gals too )
I have a female frien, that is just an average girl, but seems to be able to pull any guy she wants to (well, almost any ).
I have never been successful at pulling myself (i'm a male), but i really got one thing that's bothering me. It seems to me that she has no feelings for guys that she gets with. Even when she has a bf for a longer period, she is still flirty with everyone, and often successful (sp?). I can't imagine being with someone i feel nothing for. So, i finally came to that question: Are feelings important to you when you meet a girl? They are very important for me, but, again, i have those childish crushes that last forever, and are maybe too deep.
Should i just go snooging girls i like physically, and get to know them over time, or should i stay like this, hopelessly falling in platonic love with gals?
Thanks in advance, hope you understand my question
Well, this isn't quite an ordinary how-to-pull thread...
I have some questions for you guys (and gals too )
I have a female frien, that is just an average girl, but seems to be able to pull any guy she wants to (well, almost any ).
I have never been successful at pulling myself (i'm a male), but i really got one thing that's bothering me. It seems to me that she has no feelings for guys that she gets with. Even when she has a bf for a longer period, she is still flirty with everyone, and often successful (sp?). I can't imagine being with someone i feel nothing for. So, i finally came to that question: Are feelings important to you when you meet a girl? They are very important for me, but, again, i have those childish crushes that last forever, and are maybe too deep.
Should i just go snooging girls i like physically, and get to know them over time, or should i stay like this, hopelessly falling in platonic love with gals?
Thanks in advance, hope you understand my question
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When people go out to clubs they dance and more often than not their is alcohol involved, peoples inhabitions are lower and some people are looking to pull. If it is just a snog or whatever some people in varying states of drunkeness are not going to be too bothered by who they get off with so to speak!
I can safely say i have never been out to a club and pulled anyone, that might make me sad but you know It could also be to do with the fact that i have been involved in two subsantially long term realtionships in my teens, and never had the oppurtunity. But i dont care i wouldn't change it.
All of my realtionships have developed through varying degree's of friendship and first, and if a relationship is what you are looking for then a club or somewhere wouldn't be the best place to start.
It may sound sad but when you will meet the right girl, that being a girl that likes you back in the wya that you like her, but if fun is what your after then i guess some people regard randomin kissing as fun or whatever, then erm go for that.
Ok i ramble to much :yeees:
I thought of it as snogging a gal, taking her phone number, and having a normal realtionship afterwards. Simply: breaking the ice for dating
hope that this fixes the question a bit.
And, secondly, i'd like to add that this is kinda a question of morale. I do not want to rant on anyone, I just want to hear what you think of snogging a girl you maybe even have no feelings for, just out of boredom, having a relationship with her, and then dumping/cheating on her. Thank you!
do whatever you like as long as noone gets hurt (in any way!).
so if you and your snogging-partner are fine with it just being a one-nighter then sure, go ahead! :-)
of course, if practiced to excessively, this could earn you a "bad" reputation which might scare off the more serious girls (like those wanting a comitted, long-term relationship) so you might not want to overdo it.
and sooner or later you'll find a girl you have feelings for and it'll all go by itself.
Heh, I wish.
fucking right :eek:
In order to get a date, you have to be confident.
However, it takes a couple of dates to gain confidence.
Right?
I guess I should have started this dating game a couple of years earlier...
Edited to fix some spelling mistakes.
bro you gotta stop being so damn nice and you might actually get laid one day. it worked for me.