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Can't make a decision
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I need to make a decision, but no matter how hard I try I can't do it. I've been with my fella for 2 years and we have had our ups and downs, even split up for a few months last years because I was in a mess. We are having a few problems and arguing a bit more often than usual. Thing is last week I spoke to an 'old flame' and he said he still interested in me. He knows I'm with someone, but says if I'm ever interested to get in touch. I'm so tempting, cos I still like him, but I'm with someone, what do I do?! Half of me wants to split up with my fella and get with the other guy and one part of me doesn't cos I love my guy! I just can't decide!
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Sometimes 'what if?' thoughts can be normal, but when you're actually really contemplating it with someonem particulalry an old flame, then to me it is a sign you're not in love.
Be fair on your current boyfriend. How would you feel if it was him thinking the way you feel now?
He probably is too. Have you sat down together and tried to work though things in a calm, rational and mature manner or do you end up screaming at one another? If it is the latter then you need to do the former.