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Hi,
Most of you probably missed the post earlier about my gfs erm 'colourful' past as i deleted in case she read it (dont think she comes to thesite but im not that sure) and i dont think she'd want it shared with the world..anyway..
the problem im having at the moment is that we havent had sex yet, not such a big problem you might say, we've been seeing each other for over a month now (properly going out for nearly 3 weeks now). i wouldnt feel so bad if i didnt know her past - i mean shes slept with quite a lot of people, some of those whom she didnt even know (one-night stands) but yet she doesnt want to sleep with me. i know this probably sounds all teenage-boyish and i dont mean it too but this is getting frustrating, ive talked to her about it and she just says it doesnt feel right.. but how can things not feel right with me who shes been with for quite a while but they feel right with a complete stranger!?
its just upsetting to think that i mean less to her than some random guy shes just met
can anyone see any logic or been in a similar situation?
Most of you probably missed the post earlier about my gfs erm 'colourful' past as i deleted in case she read it (dont think she comes to thesite but im not that sure) and i dont think she'd want it shared with the world..anyway..
the problem im having at the moment is that we havent had sex yet, not such a big problem you might say, we've been seeing each other for over a month now (properly going out for nearly 3 weeks now). i wouldnt feel so bad if i didnt know her past - i mean shes slept with quite a lot of people, some of those whom she didnt even know (one-night stands) but yet she doesnt want to sleep with me. i know this probably sounds all teenage-boyish and i dont mean it too but this is getting frustrating, ive talked to her about it and she just says it doesnt feel right.. but how can things not feel right with me who shes been with for quite a while but they feel right with a complete stranger!?
its just upsetting to think that i mean less to her than some random guy shes just met
can anyone see any logic or been in a similar situation?
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I would just let her take her time and to get fully comfortable with your relationship. I know that if I'm with someone and hoping for a long relationship, I'd be more tense and worried about having sex with them for the first time, and would want to make it more special, by taking more time! Maybe bringing up her reluctance to have sex is also making her feel pressured. I wouldn't want to be trying to explain why I don't want to move into sex after just 3 weeks of being together- I'd prefer to spend the time going places outside of the bedroom, getting to know each other and not even move into sex fully until I've "explored" that person
So yeah, I think she thinks more of you and that you should be grateful she doesn't want to rush into shagging you like her less successful past partners...?
does that makes sense?