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2 wait or not 2 wait?
BillieTheBot
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hi im new on here so i dunno if this has been up b4 but if it has sorry.
i havent had a proper boyfriend for over year and a half and i dont wanna get with someone for the sake it. however, wen i see other guys i feel really turned on and theres this one guy whos a mate of my friend who ive been texting and having text sex with.
i think he wants it for real and i really feel like i wanna have sex for me not b/c i feel i should. but then i think itd be better if i wait to lose my viginity to a boyfriend but i really want sex now.
i think i can make a difference between sex and love but has anyone else been in this situation and regretted not waiting?
i havent had a proper boyfriend for over year and a half and i dont wanna get with someone for the sake it. however, wen i see other guys i feel really turned on and theres this one guy whos a mate of my friend who ive been texting and having text sex with.
i think he wants it for real and i really feel like i wanna have sex for me not b/c i feel i should. but then i think itd be better if i wait to lose my viginity to a boyfriend but i really want sex now.
i think i can make a difference between sex and love but has anyone else been in this situation and regretted not waiting?
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The way I see it you feel ready for sex, but there is something holding you back. That is the little part of yourself that thinks you aren't ready for such a physical committment.
There will be people who will come and tell you that they lost their virginity to a one night stand and it was great, others will tell you to wait because it was crap. You can only read their experiences and then make your own, informed choices.
Good luck.
Bopz
U horny thing Bopperz! Must b that Cardiff uni air
But innocent_gal...as BumbleBee said, there's obviously something holding u back from doing it, as otherwise u wouldn't be needing to calm ur doubts. Tbh, with me, when I lost my V-plates I just had this...feeling...that it was totally right. I don't think it should b a thing of wondering whether to b with a boyfriend or not...it's just down to ur personal feelings. U gotta listen to ur head, not ur heart, cos it's easy to get swept away in the moment, but u gotta b careful u don't end up regretting it. BUT, if u meet this guy and go out a couple of times maybe, so u can suss out what he's really like, then it might help ur decision.
(apologies if this is a lil random or doesnt make sense...couple too many drinks tonight :rolleyes: )
This girl says some good stuff, lol.
Some people don't care and just get it over with, and that is what they want so fine. Some people want to take time.
I would always suggest take it slowly- you don't even know this boy, not really. If you want a quick fuck to get it over with then yeah, do it, but if you are asking then I don't think that is what you do really want to do.
Get to know the boy, and get to know the personality behind the nice arse. For really great sex you have to know your partner, and be able to communicate with him- just take it easy and see what happens.
im not
no it isnt'.
and waiting shows that you can exercise more self-restraint than most rampantly hormonal teenagers.
Yeah, but don't ever forget that if someone talks about sex loads then they, more often than not, aren't actually getting any.
It's certainly true that sex is only a problem if you aren't getting any.
Sex certainly isn't as good as everyone tries to make out.