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I don't know where to start really so I guess I'll just take it from the top. Right, well I met this girl through college and at first we didn't really talk that much she was just a mate of a mate really, but then once (about a couple of months ago) when we were at the pub, both drunk, we ended up kissing and I ended up back at hers.
Thing is at the time we were both in relationships and while I was quite drunk I still had a wave of guilt hit me and I stopped it before anything major happened. Thing is, since then we've got together quite a few times - the majority of the time pissed but sober a few times too. A couple of weeks ago she came to stay over at mine and I think quite obviously we were both expecting something but she stopped it this time because once again she was in a relationship which is fair enough I can't complain especially as I did the same beforehand (at this point I'd split up with my girlfriend and was single).
Since that happened I've spoken to her and all that but nothing has happened and we haven't really had a proper conversation, for whatever reason I don't know. I mean yeah I did like her and if possible I would have liked things to have gone further but with other commitments I don't suppose it was really going to happen, so by now I'd forgotten about it really. We had arranged to meet up for a drink (albeit with friends as well) and she wasn't really talking much so I took that as the icing on the cake and just forgot about it.
Then, yesterday she rang me up out of the blue just to have a chat and see how I was and everything, regardless of the fact that when we're around each other we don't talk that much anyway, and this has just gone and confused me again.
Would you say she's simply being friendly and I'm reading too much into it, or would you take this as a sign or whatever? I dunno.
Advice on the general situation would be nice really. (Sorry it's so long!)
Thing is at the time we were both in relationships and while I was quite drunk I still had a wave of guilt hit me and I stopped it before anything major happened. Thing is, since then we've got together quite a few times - the majority of the time pissed but sober a few times too. A couple of weeks ago she came to stay over at mine and I think quite obviously we were both expecting something but she stopped it this time because once again she was in a relationship which is fair enough I can't complain especially as I did the same beforehand (at this point I'd split up with my girlfriend and was single).
Since that happened I've spoken to her and all that but nothing has happened and we haven't really had a proper conversation, for whatever reason I don't know. I mean yeah I did like her and if possible I would have liked things to have gone further but with other commitments I don't suppose it was really going to happen, so by now I'd forgotten about it really. We had arranged to meet up for a drink (albeit with friends as well) and she wasn't really talking much so I took that as the icing on the cake and just forgot about it.
Then, yesterday she rang me up out of the blue just to have a chat and see how I was and everything, regardless of the fact that when we're around each other we don't talk that much anyway, and this has just gone and confused me again.
Would you say she's simply being friendly and I'm reading too much into it, or would you take this as a sign or whatever? I dunno.
Advice on the general situation would be nice really. (Sorry it's so long!)
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Anyone, just general advice on the situation? How should I interpret this?
hope this didnt sound harsh, just my thoughts
Tigerlilly :wave:
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How I see it is that if she was interested then she would have made the moves well before now. I personally *think* that maybe she just wants you as a mate and thats it.
Its like she wants you then she doesent and to be honest thats no way to treat someone. You either want them or you dont, but dont fuck with their imagination.......which it seems she is doing to you.
I could be wrong though, but i really think if she wanted more to come of this she would have made the move before now.
Sorry
either way, the only thing you can do is ask her coz she's the only one who knows.