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oh god it hurts
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I split up with my boyfriend 2 months ago, but we've been basically secretly going out ever since - kissing, having sex, everything, but nobody else knew. Two weeks ago he mentioned seeing other people. He said he didn't want a girlfriend (part of the reason we split up). Since then he's been acting weirdly with me, wouldn't see me, barely talked to me on msn, today he told me he's 'making a go of it' with this girl and oh god it hurts so much 
knowing that he doesn't love me any more; he implied it last time i saw him but he must have seen my face fall or something because he then said he did still love me. today i mentioned that he doesn't and he didn't argue. I don't know how I'm gonna cope; he's like my best friend and if he keeps acting the way he has recently I can't take it, I've told him that and he said he was just preoccupied with this girl, the worst thing is he's so happy and I'm glad he's happy, but... it hurts that he's not happy with me I'm normally the one who can make him happier than anyone. He says he still cares about me, though not as much as he did, and obviously this other girl has to come first
Make the pain go away please
knowing that he doesn't love me any more; he implied it last time i saw him but he must have seen my face fall or something because he then said he did still love me. today i mentioned that he doesn't and he didn't argue. I don't know how I'm gonna cope; he's like my best friend and if he keeps acting the way he has recently I can't take it, I've told him that and he said he was just preoccupied with this girl, the worst thing is he's so happy and I'm glad he's happy, but... it hurts that he's not happy with me I'm normally the one who can make him happier than anyone. He says he still cares about me, though not as much as he did, and obviously this other girl has to come first Make the pain go away please
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I can understand how you feel, cause i would feel the same if it my boyfriend and we were split up. even though it hurts, i think your just gonna have to move on. He's made it clear that he's met someone else now and as horrible as it may seem his love for has turned to friendship.
I think you should accept this and it might not seem it at the minute, but you will meet someone else.
No... I know he loved me; he said it once when he didn't mean it and I know he wouldn't do it again. But I could tell from the way he hugged me, looked at me, looked after me... he hugged me on Thursday when I bumped into him and he pracically held me at arm's length, it was horrible
He's all trying to make go's of it with LOADS of other girls while with me...and it hurts but i still love him so i let him do it. i even had to pertend to be happy for him when he was talking about this girl he's sorta seeing when were in bed just after we had had sex and stuff. Its not a nice feeling i know.
Just try and find another guy to take you mind off him, thats what im doing anyway. although it feels as if no one is good enough.
Ok so i wasnt much help was i? sorry....
Well get though it i know we will, just keep on trying to be stong and not thinking about said guys and we'll be fine...eventually.
I did wonder why you said 'toy'... thought it was just short for 'boytoy'. I've been referring to him as my best friend, my luva, my other half... very occasionally my boyfriend (though only to taxi drivers and the like).
I've actually gone numb now cos my brain's blocked out images of him and the other girl, I dunno what she looks like thank god, but she's in fucking year 11 - year below him - 3 years below me. How shitty does that make me feel. He actually said he didn't fancy this girl when he first mentioned seeing other girls too; cos she'd tried it on with him and that's why he mentioned it.
Well yea he is younger than me so that does make him a toyboy, but thats not what i mean. i mean that we have sex and stuff. making him my toy and me his.....but still its not nice when you think about it. but i guess when your caught up in it you dnt really.
I'll live, he's signing up for the army so i guess its a good thing him being away for long lengths of time. will give me time to get over him. although with him gone i'll lose some good mates.
it really hurts dosent it hunny? trut me you do get over it ive been there 2 times, badly had my heart broken, and the world seems to be crumbling away-but go out, enjoy yourself even if your dying on the inside, you'll show him what hes missing and in the mean time youll be having so much fun you wont be thinking aobut him
get drunk, cry, listen to sad songs, beat things up
it all works
thank u
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I've been there too & the best thing I can advise is go out and do everything you want to do to make yourself happy...
Your ex will no doubt see you some time soon walking down the street and you'll be all like "Hi" and he'll be all like "Hi" and you'll be all like "I'm happy with my life & I'm awesome!" and he'll be like"Wow, now I remember why I love her!".
And If not... at least you'll be all like "I'm happy with my life & I'm awesome!"
Time's a healer and you sound like a dead nice girl - I'm sure you'll be sound as a pound soon!!!
BIG HUG
then if he texts/calls/bumps into you you'll be able to smile smugly, think to yourself that he's missin out on bein with you and now you can get on with ur own life
Then don't force it or he never will be. Just leave things to settle down a bit and give yourself time to heal. Then I'm sure you can go back to being best mates again but if you force it things just won't be the same. Things are too raw at the moment.