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I went through with a termination yesterday and i know that the upset is still quite raw, but i was wondering if anyone who has been in the same position took long to get over it?or did u feel annything afterwards? Yesterday i was full of relief, and today im full of regret.I desperately need to speak to someone who has been in this position please.x
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almost everyone i know of has wondered "what if" at some point or another. it's perfectly natural to be upset, especially if it was a difficult decision to make in the first place (which it almost always is).
it's small consolation at the moment, but you will feel better with a bit of time.
(((hugs)))
Everyone is different and however or whatever you do, as long as you are actually coping with it then there is nothing to worry about. There are always the pangs I get when I think about it but they fade in time. I rarely think about it now and ive moved on from it.
Good luck for the future
Maybe it will hit me in years to come, but I doubt it.
It took me no time to get over the op but I hadn't realised how depressed my situation made me so though I felt elated that the problem had gone I was quite depressed for a while after because of the whole situation!
I had an abortion this year and I will never regret anything more than i regret doing that. We planned the pregnancy and wanted that baby more than anything in the world. And I hate myself for what i've done, and feel very shameful for allowing myself to be manipulated into it at such a vulnerable time. I will never forget, as I dont believe many women will, and I think about the baby every day.
some women get 'replacement baby syndrome', where they think that if they get pregnant again it will work out the second time, and make everything better. one of my best friends had this. I also went through this, but mainly because our baby was a planned pregnancy, it wasnt a mistake, it was something we had thought about and wanted for a long time, and so after my abortion i still wanted it, just because the baby was gone didnt mean my feelings for having another child would go away. Which is something I should have reminded myself of before i let myself give into someone else's wishes.
me and my partner still want another baby, and I have no doubt that it will happen soon. maybe even sooner than we think.
I believe that as long as you made the decision, and for the right reasons, and as long as you remind yourself that it was the right thing for you to do at the time, you have a good chance of being able to accept and move on, and look at it as a positive thing for not only you, but the embryo aswell.
the most important thing is that you made the decision yourself and wasn't under any pressure.
I know like they say, time is a healer and im just waiting till whenever that may be.
Thanks again x
Take a read of this article from the site as well that contains some good advice....
dealing with abortion
Best of luck with it all.
Love Lu x