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I have a problem.
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I *Really* like this girl and I have liked her for about a year. Thing is im just to anxious to talk to her. I dont know what to say, her brother is one of my best mates and I dont think it would go down too well, what makes it worse is that theres a two school-year gap between us (im 15, shes 14) (im year 11, shes year 9). I feel like if I try it on with her I'm betraying her brother. I dont know what to do. Please help. Thanks.
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Jez
I'm not sure, I'd say stay away.
Its probably the fact that you know its "forbidden" that makes it so appealing.
Also the age gap wouldnt be a problem if you were a few years older, but if your almost 16 and shes 14/15 it presents a problem in terms of sex/physical stuff...
Mr_Wobble
*shrug*
Im not sure what your mate would think. But he shouldnt really mind.Its only 2 years difference. Now i have a problem. One of my mates (not close or anything just know him really) fancys my cousin in year 7! He is in year 11. He asked her out but when i found out i went mad and pinned him up against the wall. And threatened him. Do you think i did the right thing? I think i did its a bit pervy in my opinion. If she was 16 and he was 20 i wouldnt mind but shes only 12 and prob only just started puberty!
I think the fact that this is one of your "best" mates could become a problem. The reason I say this is because you are still going to want to hang around with your mate and if you get with his sister then you will want to see her aswell. Would your mate mind his sister hanging around?? I think he could. Your mate could want to go somewhere but doesn't want his sister coming along, but you do.
Theres just a few things to think about because it will put a strain on your friendship. If the friendship is strong enough then you shoukd be ok.
How close is your mate to his sister??
Both but I'm more worried that she'll turn me down.
I didn't meet her through her brother. I was pissed and started talking to her and her friends one time. The next morning I couldnt remember but she talked to me at school, even though I probobly looked like a twat the weekend before.
Not sure about that, or it might be I just dont want to believe it.
Hes a good mate and I dont think he'd look at me the same if I were to ask. Just seems like theres no answer to the problem without there being some negative shit to make everything worse.
Too late for that I think.
Hes protective. But they still have their moments.
I hate being the miserable bastard. Even when I do go to talk to her she mushes up my brain and I just go blank. Weird thing is that she always does the same only Im worried incase I drive her away. I said to her today that I had something to tell her but I'd tell her later because there wasn't enough time, she told me to tell her in the break but I couldn't do it - and I'm never shy around girls. Dont know what to do.