I don’t think therapy can help me

bignosegirly0

There’s some things which therapy has helped me with, such as dealing with intrusive thoughts, panic attacks etc. But there’s an issue which has stuck with me since childhood, which I don’t think will ever go away.

I always feel depressed about not being able to find love due to my looks. And there’s countless of evidence that proofs that men find me undesirable. Since I was a child, I’ve had boys and men joke about me being undesirable, with zero romantic experiences. Til this day, I’m still lonely, and literally yesterday, I encountered the same group of men who would mock me for not being attractive.

I don’t think my therapist knows what to do, because again, there’s a lot of evidence which proves my point.

I’m thinking about quitting therapy and just going on with my life, even if I have to be depressed and lonely for the rest of my life.

bignosegirly0

The lack of responses is a confirmation that there are no solutions and that I should kill myself

Past User

@bignosegirly0 i hear how ur feeling but i just want to say that i dont think that it means that u should kill urself. we care abt u. i think a lot of people here are in education or even working too especially through the daytime hours so that may be why u haven’t yet had any responses. if u feel unsafe pls reach out. u deserve support.

eylah

im sry you’ve not had a reply yet @bignosegirly0 . im sry you feel like having no response means you should kill yourself. that certainly is not the case and ppl aren’t active during the day bc of college school etc and aren’t online then compared to the evening. pls if you’re feeling unsafe and are in need of emergency help then contact these service below. as the mix isn’t a crisis support service and the best ppl to contact are those who have special training and are equipped to help you in need of help.

- shout 85258
- Samaritans 116123
- 111 option 2 your local mh service trained to help you if you’re in crisis.
- 999 in an emergency. ask for an ambulance.

you deserve to be alive and to live a life worth living. im rly sry you are feeling so low atm but there is ppl out there who are wanting the best for you and wanting you to feel safe. pls keep reaching out as we all care abt you

sinead276

hey @bignosegirly0 - sorry you hadn't gotten a response from people for a while yesterday, I myself have only just seen this post to be able to reply. You are absolutely worthy of being here and being loved, and you don't deserve people mocking your appearance and making you feel like you're not attractive. Attractiveness is a subjective thing, and there will absolutely be people out there who would look at you and think you are beautiful.

As for the therapy side of it - maybe it is worth discussing this feeling of being stuck and not making progress with your therapist to see how they respond to it. Sometimes talking out how you feel you are progressing with them and areas that you are still struggling with can help unlock new avenues of support for you and your therapist to go down. Or if you feel comfortable or was in a position to do so, a different therapist may be able to help overcome the issue, as the approaches taken can vary. It can often be trial and error with these things. Although I recognise this option can often be a challenging one to take.

Equally, if you feel therapy isn't for you anymore, that is okay too. But you don't deserve to have the continuing feeling of being depressed and lonely either.

Sending you the biggest of hugs.

Sian321

Hi @bignosegirly0 , thank you so much for your message, and it's really positive that you've felt able to call out to your Community when you were needing some more recognition of your post. It can take real courage to ask for what we need sometimes, and you've advocated for yourself here.

I noticed that you mentioned there about that thought of 'I should kill myself' and I really hear how painful the lack of response felt, and the loneliness you're coping with right now. Can I ask, are you feeling able to keep yourself safe at the moment?