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Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 27.10.25
Leyla
Community Manager Posts: 482 Listening Ear
This is a space to chat or vent about whatever might be on your mind right now, nothing is too big or small!
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i know this might not make much difference, but i really do understand what it takes for a person to get to that point. Where it's just something after the other, again and again, over and over, slowly breaking a person down over time, until it gets to the point where it just becomes tiring to even be alive. I really do understand what that's like, and whilst i know it might not seem this way at times, there's no guarantee it will be like that forever or will stay like that. You're still here, you're still fighting on day after day, still advancing and making progress by making it day after day, and you should be proud of that. It's one of the hardest battles there is.
I know this might sound silly, but i'm in the exact same place. And whilst it's scary, and exhausting, The thing that gets me through day by day is trying to find even the smallest moments of happiness i can, no matter how fleeting it is, and holding on to them for dear life. Even a 5 minute escape (i get mine from feeding the ducks at the park), makes the days a little more bearable. Sort of like an anchor in a storm, making it easier to hold on. It doesn't fix anything, but it does make things a little bit more tolerable, at least in my case it does.
I really hope this advice helps you, even just a little bit, mai.
@Cutelivejazz hey jazz, i can't see what your post was, but i'm here to chat if you want to talk a bit more about whatever's going on for you?
@Redemption i know how crushing these last few weeks and overall months have been for you, and i fully get how demoralising it is, to have so many things piling up after one another. You've been battling your situation on the job front for a while, which would leave anybody struggling, and then to have all of this stuff from your family for months on end, endlessly bringing you down with insults and demeaning comments, only to then be ignored and be pressured into things you don't want to go to like football, despite saying no countless times, and then finally for things to reach boiling point, and going no contact with some family members, is obviously going to be a nightmare for anybody. And i know this isn't everything, but it's pretty clear you've been through so much.
When things build up, and it's one thing after another for so long, it's human that over time we start to struggle more and more. And eventually reach points of extreme difficulty. I know this won't be much consolation, but by going no contact with certain family members, or at least cutting down on contact with them, you removed one of those many weights weighing you down. And bit by bit, you'll make progress. You've got an interview coming up i recall you said, and eventually, you'll land a job, and that will be another weight. It won't all be fixed overnight, but slowly over time, you'll make progress, and each problem you solve, will be one less weight for you.
Keep going as your going bro, keep pushing through, and eventually, i think things will improve.
@Nathan Thanks bro, I really appreciate that. It means a lot hearing that and knowing someone understands what it’s been like. I’m trying to keep going and hope things start to turn around soon.
@Cutelivejazz I don't know any others outside of samaritans who are open at this time. I know it's not the same, but if you went to vent about things, i'm listening if you want to talk a bit. And i'm sure the mods will be happy to edit any posts you make tomorrow to [blank] if you asked them too, if family finding out your getting support is an issue.
@Redemption it's understandable to feel demoralised and unhappy with everything. I know there isn't much that i can say that can make things better, but your an incredibly strong person redemption for still trying and still pushing through day by day. It takes strength, so well done.
(Redemption, just realised you're my 2500th post lol)
@so_very_tired i'm here if you want to talk a bit more about it. What has she done this time?