I fear I’m becoming stupider as I age

bignosegirly0

I always get everything wrong and I feel so fucking useless

I hate how being so miserable for so long has made me a fucking idiot

Blue_lily

Hi @bignosegirly0

I am sorry you're feeling like this. It sounds like a lot to emotionally deal with.

Is there something that's happened that's lead to the feeling that you always get things wrong?

Also I know when self doubt is loud other things people say can be difficult to believe and it can make it harder to rationalise negative thoughts, but I just want to let you know that I don't think you're useless. For example, sharing how you feel on here is such a courageous step and is not stupid at all. But at the same time you don't have to be perfect. You're a human and you are allowed to make mistakes in life.

Also in case this advice helps you I'd just thought I'd share a strategy I use when my negative self talk gets loud:

Once I recognise a negative thought/series of thoughts I acknowledge them and name it my negative 'voice', as I find it helpful to separate these negative thoughts from myself. I then confront the negative thoughts as though it was someone else talking to my younger self. I don't know if that might help you, I just find it easier to defend my younger self, and it actually makes me realise how brutal I was being about myself. Also I try and remind myself that not every thought my brain has is true.

This community will always be here for you. You've got this.

Sending lots of love

bignosegirly0

@Blue_lily hiya, it’s just generally talking to people or work where I get a lot of things wrong lol. Thank you for your advice, I’ll give it a try 🫶