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Loneliness
Redemption
Community Connector Posts: 5,132 Part of The Furniture
I often feel lonely, especially during the daytime when many support services are not available. While Shout runs 24 hours, most other services only operate in the late afternoon to evening and not every day. This community has helped me a lot with my loneliness and I really appreciate it, but I worry that when I age out, I will be completely alone again. At times, it feels like this community has been all I have had, especially since I am not working and do not have many friends I can be truly open with. I do not have many friends I can do the things I am really interested in with, and there are so many things I would love to do but cannot because I have no one to share them with. I also wish I had a girlfriend. I have never had one and I am still a virgin. I have never even kissed or hugged a girl, and I feel lonely on the relationship front as well. It is hard because I do not know how I am going to meet someone. For me, it is not just about having people around, it is about having the right people who are non-judgmental, genuine friends, respect my decisions, and where the respect is mutual.
I have only recently admitted to myself that I feel lonely, though looking back, I think I have felt this way for years. I can remember times in arguments or disagreements when I wished someone would take my side, but it often felt like multiple people were against me. I have sometimes felt like no one was there to defend me, and that I had to face my struggles alone. In the past, I have been dismissed when opening up by people I thought would be there for me, and that has been tough. I just felt and still feel alone in my struggles when services are not open, and alone with my interests, my relationships, and pretty much everything. Even now, while I have people here who understand me, I still often struggle alone. I regularly have trouble sleeping, sometimes sitting on my bed bored and alone, unable to sleep, something I have struggled with most of my life, and I spend my days feeling bored and lonely. It is hard with everything else. Society can be very judgmental, and I have experienced that in many places, even from teachers, college staff, and sometimes people in mental health support roles, which is especially hurtful. Being without a job at the moment makes it even harder because society often expects people to have everything figured out by a certain age. While I think things are slowly improving in terms of understanding, it can still be tough because many people do not realise what someone else’s circumstances might be.
I have only recently admitted to myself that I feel lonely, though looking back, I think I have felt this way for years. I can remember times in arguments or disagreements when I wished someone would take my side, but it often felt like multiple people were against me. I have sometimes felt like no one was there to defend me, and that I had to face my struggles alone. In the past, I have been dismissed when opening up by people I thought would be there for me, and that has been tough. I just felt and still feel alone in my struggles when services are not open, and alone with my interests, my relationships, and pretty much everything. Even now, while I have people here who understand me, I still often struggle alone. I regularly have trouble sleeping, sometimes sitting on my bed bored and alone, unable to sleep, something I have struggled with most of my life, and I spend my days feeling bored and lonely. It is hard with everything else. Society can be very judgmental, and I have experienced that in many places, even from teachers, college staff, and sometimes people in mental health support roles, which is especially hurtful. Being without a job at the moment makes it even harder because society often expects people to have everything figured out by a certain age. While I think things are slowly improving in terms of understanding, it can still be tough because many people do not realise what someone else’s circumstances might be.
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