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💜🖤🤍 All about Asexuality 💜🖤🤍
Amy22
Posts: 5,348 Part of The Furniture
So I'd thought I would do a thread/post on all things asexual related or asexuali-tea 🍵 as I say.
So for those who may or may not know me, over the coming years and months I often felt like I might be ace though there have been times where I felt potentially pan/bi. So I thought I would do an asexual 101 post for those who may or may not know about this.
So what is asexuality?
Asexuality the home of dragons, space, garlic bread (*insert that ace meme from the internet).
So asexuality (not to be confused with celibacy) is when you feel little to no romantic attraction to someone. So for instance person A sees a person in the street/friend etc and feels romantic attraction to them where person B may not feel any attraction to them at all. However there are different spectrums of the acespectrum!. (Some of the other specs I am still learning about so if I missed anything out please let me know)
These include:
- Asexual (feels little to zero romantic attraction)
-
- Aromantic (Sinilar to acesexual but does feels
-attraction to a certain degree)
- Demi-sexual (Feels romantic attraction only when they form a deep bond or connection to someone)
- Grey sexual (which I believe is quite similar to asexual)
So can asexuals have relationships?
Of course they definitely can!. However the relationship may look quite different to a generic relationship. For example while some people in relationships enjoy physical intimacy/romantic gestures an asexual may not, though some still do and can enjoy this. Its important to remember eventhough it may seem like asexuals may not like intimacy they still and can have intimacy in their relationships whether this is for connection or for joy. Asexuality is a broad spectrum and can vary to person to person and their preferences when it comes to relationships and romance.
How I best explain this is the analogy of cake. Some people may like cake and love eating it, whereas some can appreciate cake but may not feel like having it on that day to not eating cake at all.
What advice would you give to someone who is dating someone on the ace spectrum?
I would always ask the person what they are comfortable with and what boundaries need to be established in the relationship. For example is this relationship a platonic one or a more intimate one? Overall, in the relationship you should be able to communicate both of your needs and boundaries. Never pressure them to do anything they may not feel comfortable with and if possible respect their choice.
Overall, I think I may have wrote up the basics of all things asexuality but if I have missed anything out feel free to mention as I am open to learning and expanding my knowledge.
Here's a quick recap of asexuality 101:
- Asexualtity is a big broad spectrum
- Some may feel little romantic attraction where others may feel it
- Being asexual doesnt mean we are celibate
- Asexuals can have relationships, have intimacy and physical romance too
- if dating an acespec person always discuss what they feel best in the relationship and what they feel comfortable with
(Had to edit this as I made some spelling errors and didn't want to confuse anyone)
So for those who may or may not know me, over the coming years and months I often felt like I might be ace though there have been times where I felt potentially pan/bi. So I thought I would do an asexual 101 post for those who may or may not know about this.
So what is asexuality?
Asexuality the home of dragons, space, garlic bread (*insert that ace meme from the internet).
So asexuality (not to be confused with celibacy) is when you feel little to no romantic attraction to someone. So for instance person A sees a person in the street/friend etc and feels romantic attraction to them where person B may not feel any attraction to them at all. However there are different spectrums of the acespectrum!. (Some of the other specs I am still learning about so if I missed anything out please let me know)
These include:
- Asexual (feels little to zero romantic attraction)
-
- Aromantic (Sinilar to acesexual but does feels
-attraction to a certain degree)
- Demi-sexual (Feels romantic attraction only when they form a deep bond or connection to someone)
- Grey sexual (which I believe is quite similar to asexual)
So can asexuals have relationships?
Of course they definitely can!. However the relationship may look quite different to a generic relationship. For example while some people in relationships enjoy physical intimacy/romantic gestures an asexual may not, though some still do and can enjoy this. Its important to remember eventhough it may seem like asexuals may not like intimacy they still and can have intimacy in their relationships whether this is for connection or for joy. Asexuality is a broad spectrum and can vary to person to person and their preferences when it comes to relationships and romance.
How I best explain this is the analogy of cake. Some people may like cake and love eating it, whereas some can appreciate cake but may not feel like having it on that day to not eating cake at all.
What advice would you give to someone who is dating someone on the ace spectrum?
I would always ask the person what they are comfortable with and what boundaries need to be established in the relationship. For example is this relationship a platonic one or a more intimate one? Overall, in the relationship you should be able to communicate both of your needs and boundaries. Never pressure them to do anything they may not feel comfortable with and if possible respect their choice.
Overall, I think I may have wrote up the basics of all things asexuality but if I have missed anything out feel free to mention as I am open to learning and expanding my knowledge.
Here's a quick recap of asexuality 101:
- Asexualtity is a big broad spectrum
- Some may feel little romantic attraction where others may feel it
- Being asexual doesnt mean we are celibate
- Asexuals can have relationships, have intimacy and physical romance too
- if dating an acespec person always discuss what they feel best in the relationship and what they feel comfortable with
(Had to edit this as I made some spelling errors and didn't want to confuse anyone)
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Asexual - feels little to no sexual attraction
Aromatic - feels little to no romantic attraction
I don’t really know what sexual or romantic attraction are though or what the difference is because I don’t feel either 😂
Ah right no worries my apologies I'm still learning about this. I think your right though, asexual means feel little to no sexual attraction and aromatic is little to no romantic attraction.m
Aw no worries same here too I'm still trying to figure that out myself as well because I often feel like that myself. I think romantic attraction is when you really like a person and that could be aesthetically or romantically, I guess its like having a crush on a person. I think the sexual attraction one is is when you feel no sexual attraction so for example you may not want to have an intimate relationship that includes sex.
I'm still learning about this too and I wanted to post about it because I'm still exploring my identity and want to help others too I guess.
Aw no worries happy to help, I'm still learning myself I may even do other ones on different flags and also different sexualities too