If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. For Crisis Support (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Check out our JD Support Chats every Monday 8pm-9:30pm in partnership with the JD Foundation. They're focused around all things work, retail, fashion, sport and more.
Click here for more info!
Click here for more info!
I feel lost in life
Redemption
Community Connector Posts: 5,044 Part of The Furniture
Im nearly 24 still live at home no job still reliant on parents I know it’s not the best and need to change and trying to its just hard im just looking for a daytime job I can manage. I don’t have the money to move out, Im currently trying to diffrent thing to get a job. I should be working at this age, I should be working full time like every other adult. I just am trying to sort it all out but I get hopeless sometimes, I have been an adult for a while now. Ive been trying for such a long time but not getting there yet.
Post edited by Redemption on
6
Comments
I think it's totally okay to feel lost especially during your 20's because I personally believe your 20's are meant to be for trying things out, learning and developing. I will be honest adult life is so hard at times especially when it comes with added responsibilities. Technically we are still young adults so it's okay to feel unsure of what we want to do, nothing is predicted or pre-decided for us all (basically I believe we humans are meant to explore and figure things out along the way no matter how long or small that journey may be). I believe, things tend to happen for a reason and good things come to those who wait as well. I can imagine how difficult it must feel for you right now. I'm always here if you wanna chat
Big hugs,
Amy22
@Redemption as hard as this is, you have to continuously remind yourself that 20 years ago, you would have been smooth sailing through life by now. The entry level market is extremely small now, hiring is down due to NI increases and no real growth since 2008, and housing prices are through the roof and homebuilding has been ground to a halt largely. None of this is your fault brother.
There's a certain way you can look at the situation. Look at what you can control and are responsible for, and look at what you can't. The job market being a practical graveyard right now is not your fault. Extreme housing prices is not your fault. Cost of moving out and renting somewhere being so extreme, is again, not your fault. None of this is under your control. Now looking at what you can control and are doing. You are trying to get a job, you are trying to save money to move out which a job is needed for, you are trying your damn hardest and you aren't giving up. You are doing everything you can, and so much of it simply isn't within your control. It's not fair at all, but it's the sad reality. But keep trying, because you will get that breakthrough eventually.
Now, here's a spoiler for life, the majority don't figure life out at 24. There are some who do, but the majority of people don't, because life isn't easy to figure out. You aren't alone at this stage bro, and the 20's are a time when you can take risks, make mistakes and can recover from them. Not having life figured out in your 20's is common. I think i mentioned my cousin who migrated to Germany in the 20's, built a small life there, then married an american in his late 20's and became an american citizen and built a career in texas as a prison guard (100K+ over there), and then, he divorced, started a new career on an oil rig. The point is, It's okay not have life figured out because you never know what life will throw your way. You aren't behind, you're finding your path, and you're trying your very best, and that's all you can do.