support on father’s day 🌸

shannon_164

hey🙂

i just wanted to make a post on here for anyone who might need a little extra support to get through today! i know father’s day can be a difficult day for many, and whatever your reason is for it being difficult, pls know that is valid.

i myself struggle with father’s day, particularly with seeing social media posts from everyone about how grateful they are for their dad - i get so jealous because my dad doesn’t even acknowledge my existence. i’ve grown up with my dad not wanting to play a part in my life for the most part, he hasn’t had any involvement for about 10 years now, and when he was ‘involved’, it was typically excuses as to why he couldn’t make it - he was the only man that could conveniently get a flat tire every single sunday morning…

if anyone wants to talk about anything, i am here so pls do feel free to share anything on your mind - as well, there is a support thread here on the boards from 12pm-1:30pm!

i’m going to add some helplines here for anyone who may need them today, or any day, and remember: reaching out for support doesn’t make you weak, you’re really strong for doing so and i am proud of you!

if you’re feeling unsafe pls reach out for immediate support from the following:
nhs 111 - england / scotland / wales (option 2 for mental health)

phone first - northern ireland (8am-6pm monday-friday; the number will vary depending on the health & social care trust area that you live in)

out of hours - northern ireland (6pm-7:30am monday-friday, 24/7 weekends; the number will vary depending on the health & social care trust area that you live in)

999 - england / scotland / wales / northern ireland

uk helplines - some of these are specific to england / scotland / wales / northern ireland & also depend on age too:
childline (24/7) - call 08001111

shout (24/7) - text ‘shout’ to 85258

hopeline (24/7) - text 88247

samaritans (24/7) - call 116123

lifeline (24/7) - call 08088088000

papyrus (24/7) - call 08000684141

inspire wellbeing (24/7) - call 08081890036

community advice and listening line (24/7) - call 0800132737

knus (24/7) - whatsapp 07700165687

mind (9am-6pm) - call 03001233393

rethink mental illness (9:30am-4pm) - call 03005000927

kooth (12pm-10pm) - webchat on website

saneline (4pm-10pm) - call 03003047000

calm (5pm-12am) - call 0800585858

suicide prevention uk (6pm-12am) - call 08005870800

kelly’s heroes (6pm-11pm) - webchat on website

sos (8pm-12am) - call 08001151505

whatever your situation is, you’re loved and you matter

toffuna101

this is an amazing thread. yeah i second this if anyone needs support during this day please reach out for support.

shannon_164

i ended up going out today and ended up passing several of the places that i would’ve went to see my dad when he could be bothered, i feel so much worse now as it’s brought up those memories:(

Invisible_me

shannon_164 wrote: »

i ended up going out today and ended up passing several of the places that i would’ve went to see my dad when he could be bothered, i feel so much worse now as it’s brought up those memories:(

Hey @shannon_164
I know what you mean.. sometimes memories can comfort us but also hurt us at the same time and it's hard finding that balance..
It's difficult it's brought out all back up for you... allow yourself the time to deal with this... its okay! It's not your fault uoy feeling like this..

Animalloverb

As someone who does not have a father, fathers day is always difficult

DonnerKebab

@shannon_164 your father never deserved to have somebody as kind as you in his life, some men don't deserve to have a daughter, but every daughter deserves to have a father. it's cruel you were denied it. Sending you a virtual hug.

sinead276

hope father's day wasn't too painful for you all and here is a reminder that you are all loved by so many people.