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BillieTheBotBillieTheBot Posts: 274 Bot
edited July 2 in Sex & Relationships
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  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    edited July 2
    hey @BillieTheBot 🙂

    thank you for being so open with us. i can hear just how deeply you feel things, and how much love and care you’ve poured into these relationships. it’s clear that these big sisters of yours have meant the world to you, especially during times when things felt overwhelming or uncertain. it makes total sense that losing that constant support, even if it’s just them moving on with their lives, feels heartbreaking and scary.

    you’re not weird or alone for feeling this way. the kind of bond you had (and still have) with them is really special, like finding safe harbour in a storm, and it’s completely natural to be scared of losing that when it’s helped you feel steady.

    it’s also really brave of you to open up to her sister, especially when trust is hard for you. letting someone in after you’ve already felt loss is a big deal, and you did it anyway. that shows a kind of strength that even you might not see in yourself right now.

    i know it’s easy to jump ahead and think, “what happens when she leaves too?” and honestly, it’s ok to feel that fear, but try not to let the fear of the end ruin the good that’s happening now. she’s here, she’s showing up for you, she wants to be there, and even though the future is uncertain, that doesn’t make the love any less real or important right now.

    if it helps, you don’t have to go through future pain alone either. when that time comes, you can talk to someone about it, even if that takes time and trust. you're not replacing anyone, you’re building something new, each time, with people who care.

    also, just to say, your parents might not always get it, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want to. sometimes adults just need a bit of help understanding. you might be surprised what happens if you let them see this part of you, even just a little.

    you're allowed to feel deeply, to grieve connection, to want warmth, but i really hope you’ll also let yourself build something that can last in you, so that even if people move away, you still carry their love with you because you deserve that.

    we are always here for you <3
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  • foxglovefoxglove Posts: 16 Settling in
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  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 2,523 Boards Guru
    edited July 2
    hey @BillieTheBot - if you hit the button that says “flag” then “report” and select the option stating “this is my post and i want to delete it”, the mix will be able to delete it for you! i’ll also tag the staff team here too so as they can see this @TheMix <3
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  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 2,177 Boards Champion
    edited July 2
    Hey @BillieTheBot , just a note to say that if you would like for us to go ahead with the deletion, please let us know in response to our DM and we'll get that sorted for you ASAP!

    Thank you @shannon_164 for your support with this.
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