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Mum and bf
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I went on holiday with my bf and we had a couple of arguments. I told my mum about these because at the time I needed support but I regret it now. One argument in particular is causing me to worry about what my mum thinks. Me and my bf are fine.
The argument was we were trying to take a photo and he was saying about feeling like he is squinting and it’s made worse with contact lenses and he felt I wasn’t being sympathetic. So he got me to take a trial photo of him and I said it looked fine and he asked to see and I hadn’t actually taken it. So I did lie. But it was an accident that I didn’t take it. I know I’m in the wrong and it’s obviously something he is insecure about.
I didn’t apologise right away from my memory and made comments like it wasn’t a big deal and sometimes white lies are okay. I also didn’t like how he was speaking to me. I asked him to leave the apartment so I could be alone. He then went into the town about a 25 minute walk which I was suprised at and I ended up not seeing him for a few hours. I know I wanted to be alone but it felt a bit extreme. But he said I never contacted him and after an hour he decided to go into the town for a look around.
I was on the phone to my mum really angry with him and probably exaggerating. She was really cross with him. My bf was so cross at me for lying as he really values honesty even if it is difficult. I won’t go into detail but something happened to him when he was travelling abroad last summer and he told me what happened even though it was a difficult conversation and so he thought if he can be honest when it’s really hard and I’m lying about stupid things for no reason that he doesn’t agree with it.
I told my mum what happened to him in summer that time and it took a while for everyone to get over it. So I’m worried she now thinks bad of him again and it has resurfaced. She said he shouldn’t have been so harsh with me for a stupid lie when he does not have the moral high ground under any circumstances and that’s where my mums problem lies.
My mum refuses to talk about this with me and I really need reassurance that she still likes my bf. I don’t think I could continue in the relationship if she didn’t like him or approve of him. I love him and want to be with him forever.
I feel in a really bad head space and depressed. I’ve just got home from the holiday of a life time to this awful thought I can’t get rid of and I really need help
The argument was we were trying to take a photo and he was saying about feeling like he is squinting and it’s made worse with contact lenses and he felt I wasn’t being sympathetic. So he got me to take a trial photo of him and I said it looked fine and he asked to see and I hadn’t actually taken it. So I did lie. But it was an accident that I didn’t take it. I know I’m in the wrong and it’s obviously something he is insecure about.
I didn’t apologise right away from my memory and made comments like it wasn’t a big deal and sometimes white lies are okay. I also didn’t like how he was speaking to me. I asked him to leave the apartment so I could be alone. He then went into the town about a 25 minute walk which I was suprised at and I ended up not seeing him for a few hours. I know I wanted to be alone but it felt a bit extreme. But he said I never contacted him and after an hour he decided to go into the town for a look around.
I was on the phone to my mum really angry with him and probably exaggerating. She was really cross with him. My bf was so cross at me for lying as he really values honesty even if it is difficult. I won’t go into detail but something happened to him when he was travelling abroad last summer and he told me what happened even though it was a difficult conversation and so he thought if he can be honest when it’s really hard and I’m lying about stupid things for no reason that he doesn’t agree with it.
I told my mum what happened to him in summer that time and it took a while for everyone to get over it. So I’m worried she now thinks bad of him again and it has resurfaced. She said he shouldn’t have been so harsh with me for a stupid lie when he does not have the moral high ground under any circumstances and that’s where my mums problem lies.
My mum refuses to talk about this with me and I really need reassurance that she still likes my bf. I don’t think I could continue in the relationship if she didn’t like him or approve of him. I love him and want to be with him forever.
I feel in a really bad head space and depressed. I’ve just got home from the holiday of a life time to this awful thought I can’t get rid of and I really need help
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