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I’m scared but I can’t tell anyone

RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,513 The Mix Elder
edited May 28 in Health & Wellbeing
I’m safe before anyone asks but as I was packing the car to go on holiday (we have set off now) I felt something and it might of just been me overthinking but I’m really scared that it’s happened again and I don’t want to tell my mum because I don’t want to ruin the holiday. I told 2 of my friends but they just laughed and started making jokes :/

Edit: completely snapped at them and went “it’s not fucking funny” and left the group chat :/
Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.

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  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,470 Boards Champion
    hey @Rose113 🙂

    i’m really sorry you’re going through this. i’m so glad you’re safe, but i can totally understand why you’d be feeling scared and unsettled. trust your instincts, if something doesn’t feel right, it’s valid, and it’s ok to take it seriously.

    i’m also really sorry your friends reacted that way. that must’ve felt so isolating, especially when you needed support. you didn’t overreact by standing up for yourself, you set a boundary, and that’s ok.

    if you want to talk more about what happened or just need someone to listen, we are all here for you. you don’t have to carry this alone, even if it feels like it right now!

    sending you a virtual hug <3
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,513 The Mix Elder
    Thank you @shannon_164

    They just kept saying how they can push me around in a wheel chair and stuff when it is a serious thing, I don’t need to go hospital but if it doesn’t go away I might have to go to the doctors next week
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,470 Boards Champion
    wow @rose113 that’s really insensitive of them! i’m so sorry they’re treating something serious like a joke. you deserve to be taken seriously, especially when it comes to your health. just because you’re not in the hospital doesn’t mean it’s not a big deal, your pain and what you’re going through matter.

    i think it’s smart to keep an eye on it and go to the doctor if it doesn’t get better. you’re doing the right thing by listening to your body!

    i hope you’re ok <3
  • DonnerKebabDonnerKebab Posts: 1,427 Wise Owl
    @Rose113 What utter pricks those friends are. Real friends are ones who take your major concerns and issues seriously, not mock and laugh. You did the right thing leaving the group chat.

    I would advise though that you make at least a mention of it to your mom or somebody with you so they can keep an eye on you, as you don't want fear of it to linger over you over your holiday. Even just lightly mentioning a sugar-coated version of it if your worried about them over worrying and effecting the holiday, might be worth it.

    Hope you have an awesome time.
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,513 The Mix Elder
    Thank you @DonnerKebab :)
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
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