Sister and bf

user123

Hey guys

So my bf kissed a girl when we were talking to each other. Of course I didn’t like hearing this but we’ve moved on and he is so perfect and caring and I love him so much. My sister recently found out this information and I am worried she doesn’t approve. She said she wouldn’t like it if it was her. I want to talk to her but I’m also scared of what she will say. My mum knew about this at the time and she loves my bf and we are all over it and it doesn’t define our relationship. I’m just disappointed because my sister would’ve viewed our relationship as a fairytale and now that’s ruined. My mum had tried to reassure me by saying my sister said he was single at the time and free to do what he wants but how do I know that’s true? I don’t know what to do. I feel so incredibly worried.

sinead276

Hey @user123 hope you're doing okay today.

I can imagine this feels like a tricky situation to be in right now. if you and your boyfriend are in a good place right now and this kiss that happened doesn't impact your relationship, then focus on that. it may be that your sister just feels somewhat protective of you and is worried you may get hurt (which hopefully won't happen). i'd say the most you can do is just tell your sister that you and him are in a good place and that you want her to approve of the relationship in the same way your mum does. but ultimately whatever her opinion is - it's just that. an opinion. I know your sister's opinion is likely to hold more weight than that of others, but fingers crossed she comes around and approves of your partner as it sounds to me like you and him have got a good thing going. just focus on what makes you happy as that is ultimately what is most important.

sending hugs
Sinead

user123

Thank you for your help @sinead276. I am not feeling good I feel like my sister does not approve or like my bf anymore. Me and my bf have been together for almost 6 months and this kiss happened before we were together and just talking. I feel annoyed at myself for giving my sister this information and now she’s judging him I feel. If it was all this time ago should it really matter? We are happy together now and it was months ago and when he was single and we weren’t committed to anything. I am worried my sister will have a poor view of my relationship and I can’t cope with it. My sister likes my bf and gets on well with him as they are the same age and have a lot in common as well.

sinead276

i think that considering you say you and your boyfriend are happy now, then that's what matters. and if this happened when you weren't "officially" together then it's even more okay as like you said, you hadn't completely committed to each other at that particular moment, just in the 'getting to know each other' phase. i think if or when you feel up to it, you could maybe explain it to your sister how you have on here. telling her that you want her to be happy for you and him, and that you'd like her not to let this one small incident impact her view on your relationship, especially when it doesn't impact the relationship between you and your bf.

i hope it all get figures out and your sister comes back around to supporting your relationship like you want her too. as that is what you deserve

user123

Thanks @sinead276 ❤️I was really stressed the other night and ranting to my mum about my worry about this situation and she brought my sister in to speak with me. My sister essentially said to catch a grip and if he makes me happy she approves. My sisters ex boyfriend cheated on her and she said I’m essentially discrediting that by making the this a thing and she wishes her ex kissed someone when he was single or something along them lines I’m not even sure exactly but I want more clarification from her. She said the reason she said she wouldn’t like it is because she was cheated on and has trust issues but what is she trying to say. I am now worried again