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Is this silly

RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,474 Community Veteran
in Health & Wellbeing
Please tell me if this is silly or stupid because if I do it I don’t want to come across as a complete twat

Just after my grandma passed away my grandad turned off her phone and since she’s passed I’ve sort of just been writing to her in my phones notes but I’ve been wanting to actually message her and I know she won’t see it but it’s still something I want to do

If I do message her phone I won’t look like a twat will I?

Sorry
Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.

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  • Orchid059Orchid059 Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 390 Listening Ear
    @Rose113 I can see how much you miss your Grandma, and it's really brave of you to find a way to keep that connection. Grieving is a personal journey, and its okay to express your feelings however you feel that you need to, so if you want to message her phone as a way of feeling close to her and getting some closure then that is absolutely fine- you won't look silly at all. The community are here to support you whenever you need us <3
  • RiverRiver Community Connector Posts: 4,474 Community Veteran
    Thank you @Orchid059 <3 i might do it just before I go to bed :)
    Sometimes when the people most like you don't love you, it is a hurt that can cause the greatest pain, and this pain can lead you to hate everything.
  • Invisible_meInvisible_me Posts: 444 Listening Ear
    Rose113 wrote: »
    Please tell me if this is silly or stupid because if I do it I don’t want to come across as a complete twat

    Just after my grandma passed away my grandad turned off her phone and since she’s passed I’ve sort of just been writing to her in my phones notes but I’ve been wanting to actually message her and I know she won’t see it but it’s still something I want to do

    If I do message her phone I won’t look like a twat will I?

    Sorry

    No you won't look silly at all! Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a personal and difficult journey- one in which we cope around it in very different ways.
    Sometimes messaging them/talking to them, even if they won't respond can keep that communication open and make you feel better.
    Remember we are here for you.. losing someone you love is so hard.. I can't get over the loss of my aunty 6 years on. 😢
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 2,025 Boards Champion
    Just wanted to also say you won't in any way look silly or anything like that if you did message. like the others have said, grief is such a personal and individualised thing, and everyone has different ways of coping. i've heard before of people sending messages as a way to ease the grief and stuff, so you aren't alone in this method of coping. even if she wont be receiving them, it may give you the comfort that the message has somewhat 'been sent to her' - and if it helps ease that loss and pain, who is anyone to judge.

    hope you're doing okay and sending hugs
  • shannon_164shannon_164 Community Connector Posts: 2,412 Boards Champion
    @Rose113 its not at all silly!! sending you so much love🩷
  • FaolanFaolan Posts: 191 Trailblazer
    Not silly at all. I send my dad a text every day and even when he was alive the fella couldn’t read 😂

    Hope it helps you heal
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