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Marriage talks...
Invisible_me
Posts: 166 Helping Hand
Hello.
I'm 25 and from an Asian background so the marriage talks have started to begin abd deepen and get more solid. Simple fact I ain't ready *far from ready have autism and trying g to cope with tbst alongside sorting my own life, independence and more so have stable work.marrjage talks began from 20, proposal cane from relative..and easily parents rejected saying not now but now...
It's got to the poibt where a boy has been introduced to me drum my cousins mum who say his a "good match for me, as in lives in UK temp visa, calmer personality (no extended family know about my autism) and parentd wants me to meet boy, get engaged atleast and then marry in 2yrs time. Tht way he can get permanent residence in UK. I am married to a "decent " plus besides I dont want to be as a visa UK resident scapegoat either..
I ain't interested in seeing anyone though.and said no abd not ready numerous times but while it's not forceful I feel they are applying some pressure to get married start the process..
What do I do? I can't talk to anyone else family no one understands or will! Even who I thought I would this time around are saying see boy..
Plus..My doc called me this week to do a check in from return of holiday (at which marriage talks began) and like she has asked cpupke years before, whether like marriage things have started and I saud no because it was easy at that time but this time round in holiday and after return it isn't because I'm now at the deemed "msrriagesble age" t. I ended up crying ocer phone to doc and now she wants to see me .
I dont knkw if she is a bit worried because she knows I didn't want to go in holiday and I think she knows it's more then just my autism and anxiety thst made me nervous about going as before I went she was like why, what's happened there? What'd making you feel like this? Is thrrr something more? But I didn't really say and she let that be..
what will happen if I told her?? I wont and beside she is a doc ans theyre there for medical concerns m.
Don't get me wrong I don't think it's at the forced marriage stage but pressure is mounting. I just want advice, what can I do, without there being to too much backlash.
I'm 25 and from an Asian background so the marriage talks have started to begin abd deepen and get more solid. Simple fact I ain't ready *far from ready have autism and trying g to cope with tbst alongside sorting my own life, independence and more so have stable work.marrjage talks began from 20, proposal cane from relative..and easily parents rejected saying not now but now...
It's got to the poibt where a boy has been introduced to me drum my cousins mum who say his a "good match for me, as in lives in UK temp visa, calmer personality (no extended family know about my autism) and parentd wants me to meet boy, get engaged atleast and then marry in 2yrs time. Tht way he can get permanent residence in UK. I am married to a "decent " plus besides I dont want to be as a visa UK resident scapegoat either..
I ain't interested in seeing anyone though.and said no abd not ready numerous times but while it's not forceful I feel they are applying some pressure to get married start the process..
What do I do? I can't talk to anyone else family no one understands or will! Even who I thought I would this time around are saying see boy..
Plus..My doc called me this week to do a check in from return of holiday (at which marriage talks began) and like she has asked cpupke years before, whether like marriage things have started and I saud no because it was easy at that time but this time round in holiday and after return it isn't because I'm now at the deemed "msrriagesble age" t. I ended up crying ocer phone to doc and now she wants to see me .
I dont knkw if she is a bit worried because she knows I didn't want to go in holiday and I think she knows it's more then just my autism and anxiety thst made me nervous about going as before I went she was like why, what's happened there? What'd making you feel like this? Is thrrr something more? But I didn't really say and she let that be..
what will happen if I told her?? I wont and beside she is a doc ans theyre there for medical concerns m.
Don't get me wrong I don't think it's at the forced marriage stage but pressure is mounting. I just want advice, what can I do, without there being to too much backlash.
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