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Demotivation
TheNightmare
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Later today, Im expected to go to Functional Skills, and I really don’t want to. I haven’t been yet, and I don’t feel motivated for it. I don’t like it, and I have to push myself to go. I know it’s not what anyone wants to do, but I’m doing a lot of other things to try to gain employment. I haven’t been for a few weeks because it hasn’t been on, and it was on last week, but I didn’t go for the same reasons to be honest. I had a bit of a leg to stand on because of the snow, but this week I don’t have a leg to stand on. I felt guilty for not going last week and still do a little bit now. I feel guilty for not going and for feeling like I’m letting him down. I also feel really guilty about doing these things, even though I know I’m trying to do what’s best. It’s hard because I’m already feeling this pressure to go, even though I’m not feeling up to it, and I just don’t know what to expect. At the same time, I just want to avoid it and stay home. It feels like I don’t have a choice but to go, and I’m just not looking forward to it. I don’t feel too motivated in general lately, like even with stuff I might have enjoyed previously. Things you don't enjoy many people aren't going to be motivated for but I'm a bit demotivated for things I did like and stuff, I just feel demotivated with some things in general including stuff I previously liked.
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It's so hard to do anything when we feel super demotivated, especially if they're things we kind of have to do rather than want to do. Can I ask what could happen if you don't turn up to Functional skills? From my understanding it's a qualification right like English and Maths?
I also hear you here - are you still feeling the same? I wondered what kind of things you're feeling demotivated with if you feel comfortable to share
I think we've all experienced demotivation at some point tbh Ford and I wish I had a bright shining answer I could give you to help out. Just know I'm here with you in how you're feeling and I get it.
Hey @Katie . Thanks so so much for replying. I did end up going but didn't want to be there much, got a thread about it a bit here coz it didn't go too well either, I posted it after I got back later in the day I think
https://community.themix.org.uk/discussion/comment/3784313#Comment_3784313
I don't think much would happen if I didn't turn up. Yh it is, I'm just doing it for maths atm, it might help me get into work but I'm hoping I get something sooner without them but yh. I feel extremely self conscious and embarrassed about doing them tbh. It is for English and maths but I'm just doing maths atm, tried to get English too but didn't hear back. I still am feeling the same demotivated with certain things too. Its probably going to take getting into work to put me in a routine and everything a bit and motivate me. Yh everyone probably experiences demotivation or is, hopefully mine improves soon. Thanks again.