Chapel of rest

Rose113

I went to the funeral care place/carriage company and the guy took us to this room called the chapel of rest where my grandma was lay there in her coffin, at first I was okay and then I held her hand and I just fell apart. She looked so peaceful and cosy and I guess happy she looked so pain free. I miss her so much 💔

Amy22

Sending you lots of hugs right now @Rose113 . That sounds super hard for you right now to be dealing with loss. I don't know if this could help or not, but I was wondering if you were able to make a memory box of your nan (say with maybe some photos or even words that describe her). So when you feel like you miss her, you can open the box and see photos of her. I know its not the same as actually seeing your loved one but it can ease that feeling of loss and lonliness of not having them around anymore. The main thing is that she is at peace and is resting .

Sian321

Ah @Rose113 , I can imagine how heart-wrenching it might have felt to see your grandma again, and it sounds like you miss her terribly. She matters to you so, so much

If it felt helpful to say, when you're missing her, I wonder what memories with her come to mind? I would love to learn more about her if you wished to share, but please know there's no pressure at all.

What was it like to see her looking peaceful and pain-free?

We're all here for you, @Rose113 , and hope you can go gentle with yourself this evening following seeing her today. Sending the biggest hug.

Rose113

Thank you @Amy22

@Sian321 it sort of gave me closure and brought the nice memories of her back. It sounds so silly but when she was in hospital I refused to hug her and stuff out of fear of hurting her so when she passed away I hated myself but because I’ve been able to hold her hand one last time it’s helped me a bit

I only ever have memories of her hugging me and our mini gossip sessions we used to have. The other day I came across a picture of me when I was younger with my grandma and seeing that helped me so like what @Amy22 said above about a memory box I think I might do that

It gave me a bit of comfort to see her pain free but it was also so difficult that she ended the last few years of her life in pain 💔