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Christmas without Mum

DancerDancer Community Champion Posts: 8,129 Legendary Poster
edited December 2024 in Health & Wellbeing
As some of you may know, my mum passed away suddenly and unexpectedly 6 months ago after a pulmonary embolism. This year has been my first Christmas without my mum. It definitely feels different although I am glad to not have to put up with arguing between mum and dad. I have been feeling lonely and I just want my mum back. I want to have a cuddle with her again. I want to hear her weird sense of humour. I want to hear her voice again. I had lovely presents including a peg light thing that I can put photos into which I got from one of my colleagues. It's not the same though as having my mum. Other people have had family Christmas get-togethers and lovely meals whilst my Christmas Dinner consisted of pizza and chips which I ate in my bedroom.
"There's a part of me I can't get back. A little girl grew up too fast. All it took was once. I'll never be the same." ~ Demi Lovato
"The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
"I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous 
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  • shannon_164shannon_164 Posts: 671 Incredible Poster
    @Dancer sending so much love your way - i’m sure she is so so proud of you for being the amazing person you are🩷
  • briannatbriannat Inactive Posts: 114 The Mix Convert
    Hello Dancer <3

    I'm sorry you're going through all of this right now. I hope you are having a soft and gentle holiday season. You shared so many beautiful memories it sounds like about your relationship with your mum. Sudden loss holds so much pain within that unexpectedness. I hope you can look at these words and feel somewhat held with your loss and pain. It's acknowledged and I'm grateful you've chosen this space to talk about what you're going through. I'm also grateful that you've had gifts you enjoy <3
  • FaolanFaolan Posts: 149 Helping Hand
    Sending hugs @Dancer . I know nothing can be said to make it feel any easier but I hope it helps to know that we’re here to listen if you ever do want to unpack your feelings or talk some more about your mam 💚
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,837 Boards Guru
    edited December 2024
    I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s completely understandable to feel lonely and miss your mum, especially during the holidays. It's okay to grieve and feel the difference this Christmas. The gift from your colleague sounds like a lovely way to honor her, and I hope that, in time, the memories of her bring you comfort. Take things one step at a time, and remember it's okay to not be okay. You deserve support, and I’m here for you if you ever need to talk.
  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,573 Boards Guru
    I dont know what to say but I just wanted to be here for you. I’m so sorry. You’re doing so well 🫂🩷
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