Ironic

bignosegirly0

Yesterday at work, my manager was talking about how my workplace used to make pretty coworkers work at front with the public, whilst the unattractive coworkers would work behind the scenes.

I got interested and I tried starting a conversation about how attractiveness can heavily impact your life (jobs/relationships/etc) and how there’s many psychological studies proving that pretty privilege and the halo effect is very real.


But every time I tried starting a sentence, everyone would ignore me and payed attention to the pretty coworkers instead…

🙃

Sian321

Hey @bignosegirly0 , thanks so much for sharing this. Mhm, I feel frustrated on your behalf hearing this! That sounds really dissapointing, to be physically ignored in a situation where you're trying to convey your point!

How did this leave you feeling?

It feels really positive that you were aiming to open up about how you feel and to share your point of view. You deserve to be listened to. How do you feel more generally about your colleagues and your place of work?

Sending hugs,

bignosegirly0

@Sian321 thank you for responding. I was already in a bad mood and being ignored made me feel worse. But at the same time, I thought it was mildly funny, considering the irony that I (the ugly coworker) was trying to convey a point about how prettier people get treated better, whilst being ignored and overshadowed by my pretty coworkers.

I don’t have a great relationship with most of my coworkers. Some I get along with, but most have treated me differently due to my looks. I’m trying to find a new job, but I keep receiving rejections.

And incase you ask, I have spoken up about my issues to the managers. It’s just that based on my work environment, I doubt things will get better there. Hence, I’m trying to leave.

eylah

hey @bignosegirly0 just wanted to check in to see how you are doing today? i hope your well bc you deserve to feel happy ❤️ always here if you need to have a shoulder to lean on etc your not alone ❤️

bignosegirly0

@eylah hey I’m sorry for the super late response. Work has been getting in the way. The past few days haven’t been too bad. I have my ups and downs. But I will survive.

eylah

@bignosegirly0 hey its ok i am glad the past through days have been going ok that is rly gd to hear. life throws stuff at us but we learn to overcome them. you will have ups and downs maybe some more downs then ups but keep going bc your doing amazing i promise. hugs 🫂 im always here for you bc you deserve to be listened to and supported ❤️