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Anxiety when someone leaves me (family or friends)

Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
edited December 7 in Health & Wellbeing
My fried from college has come over my house we both got a lot going on mentally and physically. She’s leaving at 6 and I am freaking out about her leaving me I know she can’t stay forever but I’m like this with any of my family or friends. It’s like I can’t feel safe without them but yeah I just came here to rant because I am freaking out right now.
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  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 147 Helping Hand
    Hey there @Summerjune15

    How are you feeling today?

    I hear you feel a lot of anxiety when your friends or family leave you after spending some time with you. It sounds really difficult to go from feeling safe with someone to feeling like you've been left on your own. I'm sending you hugs <3 I wonder what is it about being left on your own that scares you so much, if you feel comfortable sharing? I also wanted to ask what you meant by not feeing safe without them?

    Having a lot going on mentally and physically sounds really exhausting. It also sounds like you're not going through this alone - you have your friend right there with you. Even if you can't be physically together 24/7, are you able to message her or call her?

    Reaching out to our community is a huge step and you're doing so well being here with us and opening up <3
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    I’m okay today
    I have no clue why it scares me so much I have been told by the doctors I have separation anxiety from my mum but I was told that at a young age 4-5 years old but if it’s just my mum I have separation anxiety from I don’t know why I feel like this about other family members or friends but I’m fine today but thank you❤️
  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 147 Helping Hand
    @Summerjune15 Also I've just moved this post to the "Health and Wellbeing Section" :)
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 173 Helping Hand
    Hey @Summerjune15 , thank you so much for your post and for opening up about this. I totally echo what Katie's said above, that it sounds like it's really frightening and distressing to think of people leaving you or being on your own?

    You mentioned that your doctor specifically told you they believe you have seperation anxiety with your mum, and it sounds like it felt daunting to hear this. May I ask, when people do leave (for example when your friend had to go home), what does feeling unsafe tend to look like? I wonder whether there is something specific that you're afraid might happen in those moments, or perhaps it is more of a general feeling?

    It sounds really tough, @Summerjune15 , and I'm sending you the biggest hug (if you're a hug type of person!).

    We're here to listen as you explore this <3
  • Summerjune15Summerjune15 Posts: 29 Boards Initiate
    Hey @Sian321
    it’s worse when my mum leaves I cry and sometimes have a panic attack. But with friends I’m just really anxious. It’s the fear of something happening to my family or friends. For example I was in college and I messaged my mum and she didn’t reply so I started to freak out. I had loads of thoughts in my head is she dead is she hurt is she okay. Them are the types of thoughts that happen and it’s really distressing. I am a hug person and thank you❤️
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