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Christmas
TheNightmare
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I wanted to talk about Christmas and how sometimes it can be not so positive. On Christmas, we usually have a traditional Christmas dinner and spend time together for the meal. Afterward, I typically go back upstairs. I remember just a few Christmas dinners where things didn’t go well, with arguments and noise, like what happened last year. I think that’s why I go upstairs afterward. We don’t really celebrate Christmas to the max anymore as we’re a bit older. We don’t usually do presents anymore, just maybe a tree and a family get-together, which doesn’t usually go too well. I find crowded situations like this a bit overwhelming too. We might just not have a get-together this year because we normally just have issues and unnecessary drama. I don’t really mind about this; if anything, I probably prefer it because it’s just frustrating.
I remember one Christmas was probably more low due to something else happening; at the time, we had a friendship fall-out and family issues as well. We've had some alright Christmases too, but I just wanted to talk about it as it’s coming up that it’s not always so positive or exciting. Christmas is not always so positive, and there will be many others who can relate. Can anyone else relate or in the same boat?
I remember one Christmas was probably more low due to something else happening; at the time, we had a friendship fall-out and family issues as well. We've had some alright Christmases too, but I just wanted to talk about it as it’s coming up that it’s not always so positive or exciting. Christmas is not always so positive, and there will be many others who can relate. Can anyone else relate or in the same boat?
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Christmas for me always brings up some mixed feelings. I've had some pretty negative memories on that day but also some really nice ones that I'll always cherish. I think it becomes complicated as we get older, become adults, and leave behind that fantasy of a perfect Christmas. Also now that social media exist we're consistently being exposed to an "ideal way" of spending the holidays. Lots of opportunities to make comparisons and think about how our situation sucks. You're definitely not alone in anything you've described. I've been trying to keep up my own Christmas traditions like cheesy Christmas movies, Christmas music in the background, and looking at all the Christmas directions around me. It helps to know that some of my own experiences are within my control, even if it might not be my ideal situation. But yeah, holidays can really be an emotional minefield. Sending hugs for sure
@briannat similar to me, mixed feelings. Like social media and also society is like that. Like they make it like Christmas is great for everyone. There was a comment on social media though on a skit video divorce papers are the best Christmas present and that completely hit home for me. Also there are a few things here and there of others struggling at Christmas in different ways. Still I've been debating on deleting social media for a few months though.