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How to handle unfair comments
Lucy_21
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I’ll make this short as possible.
Most of you probably know about my disability by now if you don’t it’s cerebral palsy (cp)
Basically I can only do so much before I get tired and a lot of days can have physical pain meaning I can’t be as active as it also effects my spine.
Usually I just ignore comments and stuff from people because I don’t have to justify my pain they don’t understand to others but even my family are starting to call me lazy.
It’s getting really hard to not just cry every time because they know it’s getting worse so know I’m not as physical as I used to be. I’m going to end up browned to my wheelchair at some point for crying out loud and they know that.
Honestly I can just clean my room now a days before my spine, legs are ribs feel like they are on fire and I have to lay down.
I have struggled with the mental affect of my disability for years now but to hear it start to come from my own dad is like a slap in the face.
Then there is my mental state of my anxiety and depression getting worse lately over other things making motivation harder as it is.
What do I do because now I’m just starting to feel useless and pathetic and just well as dad puts it “lazy” but I have no control over how much I can handle each day physically or mentally with out a depression episode kicking in or physically being in pain to the point I have to lay down
Most of you probably know about my disability by now if you don’t it’s cerebral palsy (cp)
Basically I can only do so much before I get tired and a lot of days can have physical pain meaning I can’t be as active as it also effects my spine.
Usually I just ignore comments and stuff from people because I don’t have to justify my pain they don’t understand to others but even my family are starting to call me lazy.
It’s getting really hard to not just cry every time because they know it’s getting worse so know I’m not as physical as I used to be. I’m going to end up browned to my wheelchair at some point for crying out loud and they know that.
Honestly I can just clean my room now a days before my spine, legs are ribs feel like they are on fire and I have to lay down.
I have struggled with the mental affect of my disability for years now but to hear it start to come from my own dad is like a slap in the face.
Then there is my mental state of my anxiety and depression getting worse lately over other things making motivation harder as it is.
What do I do because now I’m just starting to feel useless and pathetic and just well as dad puts it “lazy” but I have no control over how much I can handle each day physically or mentally with out a depression episode kicking in or physically being in pain to the point I have to lay down
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I'm sorry you're feeling this way. You're not useless or lazy you’re facing challenges some people can’t fully understand, and just managing each day is a testament to your strength. It’s heartbreaking that even your family isn’t seeing how hard you’re trying. Please don’t let their words define your worth. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough. If you can, consider reaching out to someone who can support you whether it’s a friend, a counselor, or a support group. You deserve understanding, not judgment. Keep holding on you’re stronger than you think. Im here if you need.
I know I shouldn’t listen as only I know what my body can handle but it’s harder to ignore when it’s by my own family never mind parents.
I don’t know about support on an official level because my family would get mad if they found out I tried as my mental issues are “just for attention” just like my SH is too apparently (not done it in a while don’t worry)
It’s just everything is already ither a physical mental or emotional battle for me but now my own family acting like this when they told me as a child I'd be limited. Now that I am and actually admitting it which was already so hard in its self I was in denial for years about my mobility decreasing because I didn’t want to admit about soon being fully dependent on my chair I’m suddenly lazy. They only seeing it that way because I’m only just admitting my physical pain instead of years ago when it started.
I'm really sorry you're going through this. It’s brave of you to admit your struggles, and you deserve support, not criticism. Your pain is valid, and you’re not lazy or seeking attention. You know your body and mind best, and taking care of yourself is important. You’re not alone, and you're doing great by facing these challenges head-on.
I can relate to unkind comments too, not the same as yours but harsh comments and it's not as easy as just ignore. Im here if you need though
No problem