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i feel so helpless
eylah
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trying my best to support my friend who is struggling with suicidal thoughts but he is saying my support isnt good enough for him. it is hurting me when he says that bc i am staying up late to help him with his mental health but its just not appreciated. i have given him so many resources to help him but thats not enough either according to him 
. i feel so helpless like i know how it feels to be in such a dark situation with suicidal thoughts but ik ppl arent thinking straight when theyre in such a low place but he always picks out everything i say that i recommend or try to do. i called police on him bc i was so worried abt him and his welfare but he got so angry at me and said rly horrible things to the point i sh bc it was rly not nice him mentioning my dead mum when all i did was try keep him alive and safe. why is all i do such a problem? i try hard to help him to think of ways to keep safe etc but i just keep getting it thrown back in my face. idk how to explain it but its ripping my heart apart bc i care abt him so much but him saying such hurtful things rly is destroying me mentally bc i cant cope with it. 💔 i wish my support and love was appreciated but its not and its rly hurting me bc im trying to do my best for myself to keep safe etc then on top of that i am trying my hardest to help him etc but i just get abuse from him. i feel so helpless 😣 he laughs at me when i say what he says abt my mum etc hurts so incredibly much but he says just get over it? like i try my utmost best for you but you just shove everything back into my face its killing me that anything i do or say is useless. i hate seeing him hurting etc and even when he says such horrible things i still support him bc hes my friend and i dont want him to lose his life bc he matters so much. but after i try calming him down factiming him suggesting helplines etc i get abuse from him after everything i do even though im in a dark place rn myself i try my hardest to support him bc he always tells me im the only person he has then goes and shoves it in my face its hurtful it rly is. i just feel so useless and nothing i say or do is gd enough for him 💔 i dont feel like im gd enough to help him bc of what he says after i try comforting him telling him everything is going to be ok etc it’s heartbreaking bc im wanting the best for him but hes throwing everything back at me that i try to do to support him. 😣💔
. i feel so helpless like i know how it feels to be in such a dark situation with suicidal thoughts but ik ppl arent thinking straight when theyre in such a low place but he always picks out everything i say that i recommend or try to do. i called police on him bc i was so worried abt him and his welfare but he got so angry at me and said rly horrible things to the point i sh bc it was rly not nice him mentioning my dead mum when all i did was try keep him alive and safe. why is all i do such a problem? i try hard to help him to think of ways to keep safe etc but i just keep getting it thrown back in my face. idk how to explain it but its ripping my heart apart bc i care abt him so much but him saying such hurtful things rly is destroying me mentally bc i cant cope with it. 💔 i wish my support and love was appreciated but its not and its rly hurting me bc im trying to do my best for myself to keep safe etc then on top of that i am trying my hardest to help him etc but i just get abuse from him. i feel so helpless 😣 he laughs at me when i say what he says abt my mum etc hurts so incredibly much but he says just get over it? like i try my utmost best for you but you just shove everything back into my face its killing me that anything i do or say is useless. i hate seeing him hurting etc and even when he says such horrible things i still support him bc hes my friend and i dont want him to lose his life bc he matters so much. but after i try calming him down factiming him suggesting helplines etc i get abuse from him after everything i do even though im in a dark place rn myself i try my hardest to support him bc he always tells me im the only person he has then goes and shoves it in my face its hurtful it rly is. i just feel so useless and nothing i say or do is gd enough for him 💔 i dont feel like im gd enough to help him bc of what he says after i try comforting him telling him everything is going to be ok etc it’s heartbreaking bc im wanting the best for him but hes throwing everything back at me that i try to do to support him. 😣💔 keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
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@eylah I’m so sorry you’re going through this it’s clear how much you care for your friend and how hard you’re trying to support him, even when it’s really tough. I’ve seen how supportive and kind you are here, not just to me but to others too. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough. It’s painful when your efforts aren’t appreciated, but please remember you matter too. Take care of yourself, because you can’t help anyone if you’re not okay. You are enough, always ❤️
hes asking for help from me again rn which im more then happy to give bc i cant say no to him bc like he said he has only got me 😕. im just hoping when i support him and when he starts to feel better that my support for him isnt thrown back into my face bc before hes been very rude abt me as a person and kept mentioning my mum so hoping i can help him even though its so hard for me but i care abt him and mens mental health is always overlooked so i want him to know he matters as a guy and that he should reach out bc he and other men matter as much as women mental health.
It’s so kind and selfless of you to keep supporting him, even though it’s so hard on you. You’re doing something truly meaningful by reminding him that he matters and that mental health is important. I hope he realizes how much you care and how much you’re doing for him. Just remember to protect your own mental health too you’re such a caring person, but you can only do so much. You deserve the same kindness and support that you give to