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Barrier of getting support
TheNightmare
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I've have been struggling for a long time and it's just tough to deal with at times like most of you probably know from most of my threads. I do think I could do with support but I just am really struggling with like barriers. I posted here about getting support, I'm not sure when but I think some of you suggested cbt therapy, I think I asked what's the ideal type of help I can get. I have done a bit of research as well but it sounds like it might be helpful. I just feel like there's loads of barriers, like what if it doesn't help, I have heard people say you lose nothing just trying it but if I try it then it doesn't help me like what can I do then to get rid of these struggles? I have heard it not helping people so I just worry what if it doesn't help me. I worry like what if I try that and stuff but I can't get rid of my struggles. Some therapy or counselling coukd just be the way forward, I think I have make changes too like if I get into work, secure a job things are more positive with that then I think if I got some help too it might just be the way forward to start feeling good in myself more often, dealing with stress etc. I think getting into work isn't going to make it fully disappear but I do think it will definitely help because I often stress about not being in work, feel pressured, I feel bad about myself that I'm so unfulfilled so I do think it will help a lot especially if I'm working hours I want to, I just might need support as well as I can have other struggles, it might just top it off.
It's just the barrier that's stopping me, like maybe that I worry that I'm weak getting it, worries it might not help etc, I've accepted it might be something I might need, tbh I have considered it in my mind for years like im struggling I might need it and I have done a bit of research about it but struggle to push through to get it. I have spoken to mentors in college, at some point it was on going then I had a few sessions and I think I saw a counsellor once in college because the mentor wasn't available but that's it. I might need a bit of on going therapy or counselling. Also is it possible to get for free? I know people who have got it through nhs free, would that be an option? I do think I need some further support like I have been struggling a long time now, it's just just tough and I just want to start feeling ok or good about stuff because it's just crap feeling like this, struggling to sleep, stress, feeling like a failure and it's not as simple as just being prompted to stop then doing so.
It's just the barrier that's stopping me, like maybe that I worry that I'm weak getting it, worries it might not help etc, I've accepted it might be something I might need, tbh I have considered it in my mind for years like im struggling I might need it and I have done a bit of research about it but struggle to push through to get it. I have spoken to mentors in college, at some point it was on going then I had a few sessions and I think I saw a counsellor once in college because the mentor wasn't available but that's it. I might need a bit of on going therapy or counselling. Also is it possible to get for free? I know people who have got it through nhs free, would that be an option? I do think I need some further support like I have been struggling a long time now, it's just just tough and I just want to start feeling ok or good about stuff because it's just crap feeling like this, struggling to sleep, stress, feeling like a failure and it's not as simple as just being prompted to stop then doing so.
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The thing about therapy is it won’t solve everything but it will give you some skills and confidence to help you progress in making things better, I think the problem is when some people go to therapy and it doesn’t solve all their problems they think it’s useless and start telling others it’s useless, which is harmful to themselves and others
Therapy will be the first step in the right direction for you so don’t think about it to much and try it and see where it leads you, it’ll probably lead you to step two, then that’ll lead you to step three, and step by step things will start to get better, and remember worst case scenario therapy doesn’t work out, just take pride in yourself you had the confidence to take the first step and look for other things that could potentially help and don’t be afraid to try them
You can do it I promise
@JMMV2005 Thanks for replying —it’s really encouraging. I like how you framed therapy as a journey with steps forward rather than an instant fix. It makes it feel less overwhelming, and your belief in me means a lot. Thanks again.
I wish you luck with the therapy and I’m sure it’ll really help you
All of what you mentioned here makes a lot of sense to me. It's a lot to ask for help and go through the steps of receiving it. Any professional you speak with, especially a counsellor will be aware of the vulnerability that comes with asking for help and do their best to help you feel comfortable during that journey. You mentioned wanting free options, here are some that you could look into.
https://www.qwell.io/
https://www.connectcounselling.org.uk/ (this one is donation based)
https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/
@briannat Thanks so much for your kind and thoughtful response. I really appreciate the support and the resources you've shared. I’ve started looking into The Mix Counselling, but unfortunately, there aren’t any spaces available at the moment. However, I’m going to keep trying and see if something opens up. In the meantime, I’ll definitely check out the other links you mentioned. It’s reassuring to know there’s no rush and that I can take my time to figure out what works best for me. Thanks again for rooting for me—it means a lot!
I noticed you mentioned that you wanted to maybe try counselling sessions but are struggling with the barriers of accessing this. the NHS offer a couple of different free counselling options that you could maybe to speak to your GP about and they could refer you to the most suitable one for you. however, if speaking to the GP feels too much at this point there is some services that you can self refer to. The NHS offer some self referral talking therapies where you could refer yourself, you will need to use the form and put your gp postcode and it will find services near to you. If you wanted something a little less formal than this there is also the website kooth which has trained professionals who can offer 1-1 support.
I hope this helps and you feel better in yourself soon. I just wanted to reiterate what was said by @briannat, take your time and there is no rush in finding something that works for you, the mix community will be here for you!
https://www.kooth.com/
@abbie1235
Thanks so much for your kind words and support. It means a lot to me. I’ll definitely check them out. I appreciate your encouragement, and I’ll take it one step at a time. Thanks again!
It’s no problem at all, I hope you find something that works for you! Taking it one step at a time sounds like a good plan, the first step is always the hardest but so worth it in the end:)