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Dream about meeting a girl
TheNightmare
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I had a dream about meeting a pretty girl last night, but woke up to find out it was all a dream and not real. I’ve been thinking about relationships and women lately, as I mentioned in my recent post, so it’s probably been on my mind, which is why I had the dream. I’ve had dreams like this before where I’ve met a woman, and it turns out just to be a dream like its just disappointing to wake up to realise it was all a dream and Im single. I need to focus on getting into work, but I do want to find someone, maybe when I’m settled in the right job, because I have other goals—it’s not like I’ll get a job and that’s it. I was planning to talk about this, but I think I didn’t get around to it or got interrupted. I’m not sure how I’d meet someone because I don’t hear good things about dating apps, and I don’t see myself finding anyone long-term on them. I want to really meet someone long-term and not be in several rubbish relationships; I would prefer to be in one, maybe two relationships, and hopefully have that as my lifetime relationship. I also worry about heartbreak too. I’m in my 20s, have never been in a relationship, and I’m still a virgin. There are worries once you get into a relationship, like what if I get dumped, what if I get cheated on, or what if I have a bad experience. And there are worries before, like what if I don’t find anyone, how will I find someone, etc.
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@amy02 thanks a lot again for your reply, I thought I wasn't going to get any, and thanks for things you've said too. I have heard a lot of bad stories about dating apps, like bad dates, people with bad attitudes, catfishing, people not saying who they say they are. Other things like meeting people online can be risky, I just don't have a good feeling about them it's like my gut is is telling me to stay away like I can't see myself finding anyone long-term from there and I've barely heard anything about it. I've heard often dont use then. I would prefer to meet someone in person or something but I'm not sure.
The advice I would give is don’t feel bad about yourself because you’ve never been in a relationship, it takes some people longer than others to start having relationships and thats ok, especially these days when meaningful connections are becoming harder to find and covid has taken two years away from our lives, and just remember that society pressures young people to be in a relationship and lose their virginity way to young, like people expect you to lose your virginity at 16, which is ridiculous because you can’t even have driving lessons at that age, so theres no need to feel ashamed about being single or virginity no matter what society says
So just take your time if you have to, and don’t rush into relationships because if you rush into something like that its more likely to not end well, but if you take you time and be patient and try and find relationships irl rather than online you’ll eventually find the one
Good luck you’ve got this!
@JMMV2005 Thanks for sharing that and for the encouragement! You're right—there's no need to rush, and taking time to build meaningful connections is what really matters. Appreciate the advice and positivity!
Also if you pursue your hobbies and stuff like that you’ll eventually meet someone because things like hobbies lead to friendships and relationships
Good idea dude