Little sister is so rude to me

Rose113

My sister is so rude to me and I never know why, then when we meet up she acts fine with me but maybe that’s because we are usually with our parents all the time?

Sian321

Hey @Rose113 , that sounds confusing! Esspecially when she's acting so different in both situations!

What's it like for you when she's rude to you? And how does she behave when you're alone together?

I have two younger siblings myself and have been through situations when we were younger where one of them would be super antagonistic with me at home, but then really nice to me at school, and I remember I found that so frustrrating because it made it difficult to tell my parents or ask for support, because her behaviour switched back to 'nice' so quickly. I wonder if you relate to that?

I wonder whether your sister is aware of how differently she's being in both situations, and what it might be like to talk with her about this? How do you imagine she'd respond?

Sending hugs

Rose113

Hey @Sian321 when she’s rude I barely message her because I’m just like wtf am I putting up with this.

When we meet irl she is nice as nip and nasty when we are alone (messages)

Yeah I relate to that

Lucy_21

Have you only just met her like your brothers hon because if so it could be jealousy about not being the only sister anymore ❤️

Rose113

@Lucy_21 no I’ve been in contact with her since I was 10, also she doesn’t know about me making contact

Lucy_21

Oh then maybe that’s just her personality love, hate to say it but some people are like that and how she really feels about you is what she shows when alone to not look like the bad one, have you straight up asked why she’s like that (different in different situations)❤️

Katie

Hey there @Rose113, that sounds pretty tricky to navigate her being nice irl and then not so much over messages. I wonder if she's older or younger than you? Just for some more context

Have you been able to speak to her about this and how it feels very hot and cold? It might be worth speaking to other family about it too to see if they can support. What do you think?

It sounds really difficult not really knowing where you stand with someone or how they are going to act around you because they're constantly changing how they approach you. I hear you that when you meet up in person you're always with your parents, and I can understand your thinking of her maybe just being nice because they're there too. I'm sorry she's acting like this around you Rose - I'm sending hugs

Rose113

@Katie shes younger, she’s 14

Can’t talk to anyone about it cos it’s so complicated with families. We have separate parents too

Lucy_21

Always here if you need a vent hon❤️