One thing after another

TheNightmare

I had a call that I didn’t get the job I interviewed for, and I’m feeling anxious about when I’ll finally secure a job after a year of setbacks. Despite receiving some support and having a few options, I tend to focus on the obstacles. Being at home is boring, and while I want to pursue hobbies, they require money I don’t have without a job. I also don’t want to resort to volunteering instead of finding a paid position. This wait has been frustrating and is taking a toll on my confidence. I'm going to try to look for extra support but it just feels like 1 thing after another with setbacks and stuff.

briannat

Hey there TheNightmare,

I'm sorry to hear you didn't get the job you interviewed for. This feeling of anxiety is deeply relatable and it sucks to be in this process of job searching and being told no after working really hard to be able to apply for the job in the first place. It makes a lot of sense that all of this has taken a toll on your confidence, it's hard to be repeatedly told no and painful.

I hope you are able to engage in activities or even reach out to different relationships you have in life such as friends and family that remind of your worth outside of working. I wonder if there are any hobbies that you can pursue that don't require money (or very little) ? Learning a new recipe, watching films (streaming services), exercise videos on youtube, or even just going for a walk. You even mentioned volunteering and it doesn't have to take up so much space in your life to where you can't have a paid job but it might be helpful to consider as you go through this job searching process. These are just suggestions, it seems like you really are interested in pursuing hobbies and are just having a hard time getting started.
It's important to take breaks when applying for jobs, as it might start to feel as though you're spending most if not all of your energy on this process which can lead to feeling quite burnt out.

You mentioned tending to focus on the obstacles. This makes sense as they most likely feel like all you can see, but it's important to remember that you are still making progress and you've even mentioned having some options and receiving some support. I hope you're able to do something today that makes you smile or laugh

TheNightmare

briannat wrote: »

Hey there TheNightmare,

I'm sorry to hear you didn't get the job you interviewed for. This feeling of anxiety is deeply relatable and it sucks to be in this process of job searching and being told no after working really hard to be able to apply for the job in the first place. It makes a lot of sense that all of this has taken a toll on your confidence, it's hard to be repeatedly told no and painful.

I hope you are able to engage in activities or even reach out to different relationships you have in life such as friends and family that remind of your worth outside of working. I wonder if there are any hobbies that you can pursue that don't require money (or very little) ? Learning a new recipe, watching films (streaming services), exercise videos on youtube, or even just going for a walk. You even mentioned volunteering and it doesn't have to take up so much space in your life to where you can't have a paid job but it might be helpful to consider as you go through this job searching process. These are just suggestions, it seems like you really are interested in pursuing hobbies and are just having a hard time getting started.
It's important to take breaks when applying for jobs, as it might start to feel as though you're spending most if not all of your energy on this process which can lead to feeling quite burnt out.

You mentioned tending to focus on the obstacles. This makes sense as they most likely feel like all you can see, but it's important to remember that you are still making progress and you've even mentioned having some options and receiving some support. I hope you're able to do something today that makes you smile or laugh

Hi @briannat

Thanks so much for your thoughtful and supportive message. It means a lot to have someone acknowledge the challenges of job searching and offer such kind and practical advice. I really appreciate the suggestions for hobbies and volunteering—it’s given me a lot to think about. Your words remind me to take breaks and focus on the progress I’ve made, even when it feels tough.

Thanks again for your kindness and encouragement

eylah

ik you had a reply but you know what? they are missing out on a hard working person like you bc remember that job obviously wasn’t meant to be but the next one will! i am here for you like always ❤️

TheNightmare

eylah wrote: »

ik you had a reply but you know what? they are missing out on a hard working person like you bc remember that job obviously wasn’t meant to be but the next one will! i am here for you like always ❤️

Thanks so much @eylah , you're way too kind ❤️ ,Im here for you too.

Alwayshope2day

@TheNightmare, I'm really sorry to hear about the disappointment. I can imagine how tough it must feel to not get the job you were hoping for. Please don't be too hard on yourself- the interview experience will most likely benefit you in the future, especially when the next opportunity comes along.

Maybe it's worth exploring a way to ease into something like volunteering. Even just a small commitment, like a few hours a week, could be a great starting point. I found it helped me years ago when I was in a similar spot: it gave me a sense of purpose and a much-needed break from the job search. But of course, only if it feels right for you.

I've found a book called The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday uplifting when I've faced challenges. It's all about turning setbacks into opportunities.

There's always a way, and there's one for you too!

TheNightmare

Alwayshope2day wrote: »

@TheNightmare, I'm really sorry to hear about the disappointment. I can imagine how tough it must feel to not get the job you were hoping for. Please don't be too hard on yourself- the interview experience will most likely benefit you in the future, especially when the next opportunity comes along.

Maybe it's worth exploring a way to ease into something like volunteering. Even just a small commitment, like a few hours a week, could be a great starting point. I found it helped me years ago when I was in a similar spot: it gave me a sense of purpose and a much-needed break from the job search. But of course, only if it feels right for you.

I've found a book called The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday uplifting when I've faced challenges. It's all about turning setbacks into opportunities.

There's always a way, and there's one for you too!

@Alwayshope2day thanks for your reply, I appreciate everything you said. I don't think volunteering is for me though, I hope that's ok but I appreciate suggestion and other stuff yiu said.

Alwayshope2day

@TheNightmare, of course that's okay Volunteering isn't for everyone, and it's important to focus on what works best for you.

Keep putting those job applications out there. I know this process feels terrible, but you'll get there!

TheNightmare

Alwayshope2day wrote: »

@TheNightmare, of course that's okay Volunteering isn't for everyone, and it's important to focus on what works best for you.

Keep putting those job applications out there. I know this process feels terrible, but you'll get there!

@Alwayshope2day I have a bit of support to so hopefully that should help too thanks a lot honestly though for the encouragement.

Alwayshope2day

@TheNightmare, I'm so glad- having support really does make a difference! And we're always here to cheer you on too.

TheNightmare

Alwayshope2day wrote: »

@TheNightmare, I'm so glad- having support really does make a difference! And we're always here to cheer you on too.

I'll be forever grateful for the support here.