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Uncertainty getting into work
TheNightmare
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in Work & Study
I've been thinking about when I will actually secure something, and it makes me feel really worried. This year has had its lows and a significant setback that I've mentioned before and won’t go over again, but it has affected me. I've been dwelling on it, feeling emotions like anger. Even though it's in the past and I know I need to move on, I still feel these lingering emotions sometimes. I'm trying to stay positive, but it's a battle against negative experiences, both recent and overall, as well as other negative factors. I feel like I'm getting support towards finding work, and there are multiple options, but I also focus on the negative points that might stop me from getting a job. Job searching isn’t easy, and I often feel bored at home.
I know a few people have said do I have any hobbies to do in the mean time. Although I have hobbies or things I’d like to do, they mostly require money, which has been tough. People have suggested volunteering too but thats not something Im looking at. Money has been a bit of an issue. Not having a proper income because I’m not working has been another struggle. I’m really hoping to get into work soon, as it would help improve my situation. I've often felt disappointed and sometimes ashamed of how things have turned out, and it’s affected my self-confidence, especially being out of work. I just really can't wait to get into something, but I dread how long it’s taking.
I know a few people have said do I have any hobbies to do in the mean time. Although I have hobbies or things I’d like to do, they mostly require money, which has been tough. People have suggested volunteering too but thats not something Im looking at. Money has been a bit of an issue. Not having a proper income because I’m not working has been another struggle. I’m really hoping to get into work soon, as it would help improve my situation. I've often felt disappointed and sometimes ashamed of how things have turned out, and it’s affected my self-confidence, especially being out of work. I just really can't wait to get into something, but I dread how long it’s taking.
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It sounds like this whole job search process has had you feeling really overwhelmed and worried about how to manage the anxiety that comes with it. Searching for a job is understandably difficult and emotionally exhausting. You're absolutely right, job searching isn't easy.
It takes a lot of effort to stay positive, so you're already doing pretty well given how you've been feeling. The shame and guilt you mentioned feels so real. I hope you can see that you have value and deserve kindness and respect whether or not you're employed. I'm hoping you get a job soon, it sounds like you've been working so hard to get one.
You spoke about money being an issue. Here are some signposts you could check out to see if you qualify for any help or benefits while you try to get yourself back on your feet.
https://capuk.org/ (You don't need to be Christian to use this service)
https://www.gov.uk/civil-legal-advice 0845 345 4 345.
I hope this is helpful for you and keep reaching out for support, you're doing the best you can.
Thanks a lot mate.
It sounds so natural that you're feeling some lingering anger over the events of this past year. You've been coping with a lot, and sometimes it can take us a while to process the impact of significant setbacks and where they leave us now. It sounds like those 'negative' feelings build up sometimes and you feel like you have to battle against them or push through so as not to get stuck. Is that right?
I wonder whether there has been anything or anyone that's helped you to express that anger? It definitely deserves to be felt and acknowledged, because the impact of what you've been through this past year is so real and valid
Hi @Sian321
You're absolutely right about how those negative feelings can build up, and I do feel like I have to push through them sometimes so I don’t get stuck. That really resonated with me.
As for expressing the anger part, I haven’t really spoken much about it to many people in real life, but I did talk about it in the recent Friday chat thread. It felt like a bit of a release to share it there. Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it as always.
Job-searching can feel like a marathon, and the process can chip away at your self-esteem. But you are so much more than this season. Your feelings are valid, and I'm sorry it's been such a worry. This doesn't define who you are and what you're capable of.
In the meantime, have you thought about starting a free blog? Writing can be a great way to stay busy and focus on something you enjoy. Plus, it's a creative outlet that can help shift your mindset while you're navigating this season.
You will get through this. Keep going. We're rooting for you!
@Alwayshope2day Hey, thanks so much for the encouraging words. It really means a lot. I’ve definitely been feeling the pressure lately, and it’s been tough on my confidence, but hearing this helps remind me that this is just a phase. I’ll try to keep pushing through, even when it feels overwhelming.
I hadn’t thought about starting a blog, but it sounds like a good idea. It could be a good way to stay busy and give me something else to focus on while I keep looking for work. Do you know anywhere where might be the best place to do a blog? Thanks again for the support—it really does help to know someone’s rooting for me.
There are a few free blogging platforms that might be worth exploring to see which feels right for you: WordPress.com (great for customising your blog), Medium (I've heard it's easy to set up and good for writing), Blogger (I've also have heard it is simple and pretty straightforward to set up) and Substack (great if you'd like to write newsletters and reach an audience by email- my friend uses this one for his modelling blog and he finds it really fulfilling!)
I hope one of these feels like a good fit and gives you a creative outlet to enjoy your interests during this tricky time. Hopefully, it'll bring a little extra joy to your days
Thanks so much, you are all too nice to me