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Uncertainty getting into work
TheNightmare
Posts: 2,269 Boards Champion
in Work & Study
I've been thinking about when I will actually secure something, and it makes me feel really worried. This year has had its lows and a significant setback that I've mentioned before and won’t go over again, but it has affected me. I've been dwelling on it, feeling emotions like anger. Even though it's in the past and I know I need to move on, I still feel these lingering emotions sometimes. I'm trying to stay positive, but it's a battle against negative experiences, both recent and overall, as well as other negative factors. I feel like I'm getting support towards finding work, and there are multiple options, but I also focus on the negative points that might stop me from getting a job. Job searching isn’t easy, and I often feel bored at home.
I know a few people have said do I have any hobbies to do in the mean time. Although I have hobbies or things I’d like to do, they mostly require money, which has been tough. People have suggested volunteering too but thats not something Im looking at. Money has been a bit of an issue. Not having a proper income because I’m not working has been another struggle. I’m really hoping to get into work soon, as it would help improve my situation. I've often felt disappointed and sometimes ashamed of how things have turned out, and it’s affected my self-confidence, especially being out of work. I just really can't wait to get into something, but I dread how long it’s taking.
I know a few people have said do I have any hobbies to do in the mean time. Although I have hobbies or things I’d like to do, they mostly require money, which has been tough. People have suggested volunteering too but thats not something Im looking at. Money has been a bit of an issue. Not having a proper income because I’m not working has been another struggle. I’m really hoping to get into work soon, as it would help improve my situation. I've often felt disappointed and sometimes ashamed of how things have turned out, and it’s affected my self-confidence, especially being out of work. I just really can't wait to get into something, but I dread how long it’s taking.
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It sounds like this whole job search process has had you feeling really overwhelmed and worried about how to manage the anxiety that comes with it. Searching for a job is understandably difficult and emotionally exhausting. You're absolutely right, job searching isn't easy.
It takes a lot of effort to stay positive, so you're already doing pretty well given how you've been feeling. The shame and guilt you mentioned feels so real. I hope you can see that you have value and deserve kindness and respect whether or not you're employed. I'm hoping you get a job soon, it sounds like you've been working so hard to get one.
You spoke about money being an issue. Here are some signposts you could check out to see if you qualify for any help or benefits while you try to get yourself back on your feet.
https://capuk.org/ (You don't need to be Christian to use this service)
https://www.gov.uk/civil-legal-advice 0845 345 4 345.
I hope this is helpful for you and keep reaching out for support, you're doing the best you can.
Thanks a lot mate.
It sounds so natural that you're feeling some lingering anger over the events of this past year. You've been coping with a lot, and sometimes it can take us a while to process the impact of significant setbacks and where they leave us now. It sounds like those 'negative' feelings build up sometimes and you feel like you have to battle against them or push through so as not to get stuck. Is that right?
I wonder whether there has been anything or anyone that's helped you to express that anger? It definitely deserves to be felt and acknowledged, because the impact of what you've been through this past year is so real and valid
Hi @Sian321
You're absolutely right about how those negative feelings can build up, and I do feel like I have to push through them sometimes so I don’t get stuck. That really resonated with me.
As for expressing the anger part, I haven’t really spoken much about it to many people in real life, but I did talk about it in the recent Friday chat thread. It felt like a bit of a release to share it there. Thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it as always.