I hate lying to my parents

Starlight

Right so to start I’m a cis female lesbian but I’m not out to my parents although I really want to be (I’m 98% sure they’ll be fine with it but I’m just so scared it might not go down well idk why?). Anyways I matched with a wonderful girl on a dating app back in July whilst I was still at uni and we hit it off right away, we message everyday and FaceTime frequently and I really like her a lot and I’m very happy with her. I’m now living back at home with my parents but I’ve planned a week away to visit her in a couple weeks time which I’m very excited about however my parents want to know where I’m going and I’m typically very open with my parents but I just can’t bring myself to tell them but I also hate lying to fhem and it’s eating away at me. I guess I’m looking for advice or ways to make it easier to tell them? Thanks in advance just wanting to feel a little less alone

Sian321

Hey @Starlight thank you so much for sharing this with us It feels really beautiful that you've found this person who you're excited about, and that you're wanting to share this part of yourself with your parents too. You are so deserving of feeling known and appreciated for who you are!

For me personally, when I first came out to my parents I found it helpful to write down what I wanted to say on a piece of paper and then give that to them physically. I knew I was going to feel really emotional and choked-up when speaking, so this helped ground me. I was also really nervous about whether or not I'd be accepted, and I found it helpful to even share that too, to say to Mum and Dad, "I feel really scared to tell you this....". I think being vulnerable like that helped.

With my Mum, it definitely took a little bit of time for her to adjust to the news too, so in the meantime speaking to friends and getting support from my sisters helped me to cope with the shakiness of that. I'd reccomend getting some nice self-care activities lined up for after the conversation so that you have support if you do feel a bit wobbly. That is so, so valid. And remember to take all the time you need

No matter what happens, @Starlight , we're here for you. Your queerness is so beautiful, and what an honour that you're wanting to share who you are with your parents. Anyone would be so lucky to get to know you more

Starlight

Hey @Sian321 thank you do much for your kind words! That’s really good advice, thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me!

Sian321

Hey @Starlight , of course! So happy we can be here for you in this. How are things feeling this weekend? Keep us posted on anything you want to

Sunshine12

hey @Starlight i don't have any advice but just wanted to say I'm glad you've found someone ur happy with!! i hope when u do tell ur parents they're supportive of u