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BillieTheBotBillieTheBot Posts: 262 Bot
edited February 7 in Health & Wellbeing
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  • FaolanFaolan Posts: 174 Helping Hand
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  • AnonymousToeAnonymousToe Posts: 2,587 Boards Guru
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    Omg. Billie, you tried to protect your pet. The intent was purely to save the goat from being hurt. I promise that you’re not a bad person or anything because of this. You didn’t do anything wrong. I think perhaps the police officer thought you were going to hurt him or stop him dealing with your cousins or something??? Probably because your cousins were shouting and it was just chaos. It sounds like he thought you were trying to cause harm or something.

    I don’t really know what to say but I’m so sorry you had to experience that. They’ve called you a ‘victim’, which I doubt they do lightly. That police officer messed up. I’m so glad somebody at least realised that, but I know it doesn’t make it all ok. Being arrested is not something anyone wants to experience. And it must’ve been very sudden and such a shock when it happened. Plus with your sister being in hospital too, that’s a lot to be dealing with at once.

    You got arrested because the police officer made a mistake and that’s so messed up. This isn’t something that shapes your identity or anything like that. The story is that you tried to protect your pet and then you were (literally in their words) ‘victim’ to that police officer.

    It’s ok to take time to process it all, and it’s ok to feel everything you feel about it. I’m so sorry it happened🫂
    I hope your mam, sister and goat (and you!) are all ok, and well done for reaching out. 💙
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  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 284 The Mix Regular
    edited February 8
    You're so brave for sharing this with us Billie this sounds like such a difficult and upsetting situation. It's completely understandable that you're still thinking about it after such an unnecessary ordeal. It sounds like a situation that got completely out of hand and the officer was absolutely in the wrong. You didn't deserve to be treated like that at all I hope you know that <3 I'm glad you've had a letter from them about the situation has this been able to provide you with any closure? It's great it was validating for you and that they can see that what happened should've been avoided in the first place! I hope yourself, your family and your goat are all doing okay! Your poor goat I bet he was just so confused and scared - he's just a tiny little fella! I'm sending you hugs there is no pressure at all for you to move on right now. Thank you for sharing this with us and I hope doing so has helped you even a little bit <3
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  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,943 Boards Guru
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    I understand how hard this must be for you. It’s tough when you’ve spent your whole life trying to prove you're different, and then something like this happens. The way things played out sounds really stressful, and it makes sense that you still feel upset, even though you were let off with a warning. Sometimes, even when we hear that we were right, it doesn’t take away the feelings right away. It’s okay to take your time to process everything. Talking about it can help, and you’re not wrong for feeling the way you do.

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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,133 Supreme Poster
    Different situation entirely, but I do know how you feel. I won't share my full story here because number 1 I think you know and number 2 it's irrelevant, but I too was arrested under circumstances that should, really, have warranted a complaint. I hear you though because it's like you feel the whole world is against your entire character now. I can't really compare as I am from an entirely different background to yours, but I just wanted to acknowledge this
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
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  • independent_independent_ Community Champion Posts: 9,133 Supreme Poster
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    You’re spot on there. My level of trust and respect for the police has gone to almost zero. I would never go to one for help with anything mental health related ever again. At least not willingly.

    It’s like a complete change of how others view (or at least might view) you. That’s how i felt for months. The full situation I have actually never published on the boards because what if someone comes across it and thinks “fucking hell she’s a disgrace” or whatever else people think. So props to you for posting this so soon after, you’re stronger than I ever have been.
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    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • TheNightmareTheNightmare Posts: 2,943 Boards Guru
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    No worries @BillieTheBot
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  • KatieKatie Community Manager Posts: 284 The Mix Regular
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    I feel a sense of relief reading this update from you. Thank you for letting us know <3 It does sound like it might be healing having that recognition and apology from the officer who arrested you. It's also brilliant he owned up to his mistakes and big respect to you for forgiving him - that can take a lot. This is a really lovely update to read!

    I'm also glad seeing your social worker went really well. I hear you that it's sad your mam is planning on moving away and this will bring change for you. But it's great to hear you'll still have your uncle and community. Will you be able to still see your mam and sister if you don't mind me asking?
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