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Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,436 Boards Champion
edited October 15 in Health & Wellbeing
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Want to hurt me… go ahead
Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
Want to talk crap about me…go on then
Want to make me cry…feel free
Post edited by JustV on

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  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    You are trying love and that counts for something. Just keep reminding her you are there for her, you care about her and no matter what she has you. I’m not sure about what to say for the help but you can for now until you get more experienced advice keep an eye on her, keep her talking and make sure she understands you are there for her
  • sinead276sinead276 Posts: 1,634 Extreme Poster
    you're being so strong @Rose113 and from what it sounds like, you're doing everything you can to help your friend. it's a lot of pressure to be under when trying to help your friend hurting the way they are. but you are doing all you can and you should be proud of yourself for that. i know it may be hard but perhaps there's ways you can ease her into the idea of seeking help from professionals of some form.

    but remember to take care of yourself too and that you're mental health also matters in this situation. we are all here to support you too however we can. keep being amazing

    sending hugs <3
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,436 Boards Champion
    edited October 15
    Post edited by Rose113 on
    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    @JustV I’m sorry but what on earth, do you know how messed up what you just said is. You basically just said to let her friend die because some people use suiside to trap people. So does that mean everyone with depression should be just ditched to end it. Rose has come on this site because they trusted you all and believe me that takes a lot and in one comment you destroyed it. I don’t know what you’re intentions were with this comment but it clearly didn’t go well
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,436 Boards Champion
    @Lucy_21 please delete your comment, you’ll get in trouble, I don’t care abt this thread, I shouldn’t of posted this thread, that’s my own fault, please don’t get yourself in trouble
    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    I don’t care if I get in trouble I’m not having anyone upset you like that when all you did was ask for advice I thought that was what this page was for. No one can get me in trouble for calling people out but if it will make you feel better I’ll do it for you
  • eylaheylah Posts: 4,590 The Mix Elder
    Lucy_21 wrote: »
    @JustV I’m sorry but what on earth, do you know how messed up what you just said is. You basically just said to let her friend die because some people use suiside to trap people. So does that mean everyone with depression should be just ditched to end it. Rose has come on this site because they trusted you all and believe me that takes a lot and in one comment you destroyed it. I don’t know what you’re intentions were with this comment but it clearly didn’t go well

    that is so rude. they was helping them not bring them down.. thats not nice to say abt just v especially when they was only trying to help rose.
    keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. 🤍
  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    Please point out the part that HELPED her because I can’t find it and I know personally what she took from it you don’t
  • Lucy_21Lucy_21 Posts: 158 Helping Hand
    Rose asked me to take it down so I don’t get in trouble but I don’t know how but when I figure it out I will but because she asked not so I don’t get in trouble because I know what I said and I know more than you think
  • Rose113Rose113 Community Champion Posts: 2,436 Boards Champion
    edited October 15
    @lucy do u see a cog button ? On ur post press that and then press edit
    Want to hurt me… go ahead
    Wish to bully me…I’m used to it
    Want to talk crap about me…go on then
    Want to make me cry…feel free
  • JustVJustV Community Manager Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    @Lucy_21 you're very welcome to challenge posts written by others (mods included) - some of the best discussions on here are ones where different perspectives come together and the discussion gets very passionate. But it's important to assume good intentions in others and not be combative.

    I won't say too much on this because Rose has deleted their original post. I hear that you're trying to support them, but I'm not trying to suggest that Rose is hurting anyone (I don't think they are). There are some signs here of an unhealthy dynamic between Rose and their friend that I wanted to highlight. Supporting other community members isn't just about affirming and encouraging them - sometimes it also means challenging what they say if we think it might be helpful.

    @Rose113, I am sorry if my response upset you - that wasn't my intention. I'm approaching this with experience of being that 'therapist friend', so it honestly comes without judgement and with a lot of empathy for the position you're in. That could probably have been clearer in my post.
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
    The truth resists simplicity.
  • JustVJustV Community Manager Posts: 5,579 Part of The Furniture
    edited October 15
    Because this conversation has been a bit derailed and the original post has been deleted, I'm going to close this thread for now. But for the record @Rose113 I don't think you were wrong to create it - these discussions are important to have, even if this one got a bit heated. :)
    All behaviour is a need trying to be met.
    The truth resists simplicity.
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