2 nites ago

ellie2000

A man was outside talkin n it was keeping me awake, so i got up, took photos and then 5mins l8r i had enough. At 11:55 I went outside n told him to f.off. was tht reasonable?
I got told tht it was the wrong thing to do. Wat do others think?

toffuna101

maybe it wouldve been better if you were more polite about it like kindly asking him to leave. if he doesnt and is rude to you back do that.

Trimina

Totally understandable how frustrating it is to have someone do this. I think for next time, if this does happen again and if you feel safe and comfortable let the person know how loud and disruptive they’re being and ask them to leave or quiet down. Overall just being very calm but firm about how you feel will usually get someone to stop, sometimes they may not be fully aware of how they maybe causing issues.

eylah

i hope your ok ellie i hope your safe? ik things have been hard for you and i understand why you told him to f off. sending you hugs.

Former Member

Hi @ellie2000
sorry to hear about this, as I understand how frustrating this must have been. I also understand in these situations it is easy to be reactive and respond immediately, but sometimes I think you need to take a step back and consider your options.

ellie2000

@toffuna101 @Trimina @eylah @fiona333
Could it a getting back at ppl type situation? Ppl got away with alot of stuff in the last town. I was wondering if it was tht?

toffuna101

wdym? is it when you treat others the way you wanna be treated so you get back at them when theyre being rude?

ellie2000

@toffuna101 the way I was negatively treated in the past makes me turn on nd insult ppl, is tht normal with trauma?

eylah

i get like that ellie i understand that sm your alone in that and thats normal. here for you .

toffuna101

if youve had trauma its common in people to be rude to others, dont worry.