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RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,442 Community Veteran
in Sex & Relationships
I wanted to talk about how I’m worried about relationships. Being a shorter guy, I struggled in school and college to form relationships while others seemed to have them, and even now, I haven’t find anyone. In college, I didn’t tried at all, and since I went to an all-boys secondary school, there were obviously no girls there, apart from a few teachers who was too old for me. I hear about other people’s struggles and all the negative things about dating apps, which makes me doubt that I’ll ever find the one through them. I want to find someone special, but I’m unsure how, and I worry that if I do, I’ll struggle badly with heartbreak if things don’t work out. I’d rather meet someone naturally and gradually connect through common interests, but I’m not sure how to make that happen neither.

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  • independent_independent_ Community Connector Posts: 9,717 Supreme Poster
    edited September 2024
    The best (and only) advice i can give on dating without using online apps is to pursue your interests and hobbies and see if you get lucky. Be confident if you do. You might also meet people in places like pubs if you go to them.

    Edit: I am in a 6 year relationship with a guy who is shorter than me, so it doesn’t put all women off.
    “Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them.”
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,442 Community Veteran
    independent_ wrote: »
    The best (and only) advice i can give on dating without using online apps is to pursue your interests and hobbies and see if you get lucky. Be confident if you do. You might also meet people in places like pubs if you go to them.

    Edit: I am in a 6 year relationship with a guy who is shorter than me, so it doesn’t put all women off.

    Cheers @independent_ also thanks so much for talking yesterday about few things through, it was helpful.
  • BlueIrisBlueIris Inactive Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
    @TheNightmare Some advice I can give you is that your better to focus on doing things you enjoy and carrying on with your life and perhaps you will meet someone within those activities. That’s a great way of starting a relationship with a few things in common. Heartbreak is hard but there is a possibility of it, but you can only try your best in a relationship and give it your all. That is the only way that a relationship stands a chance of surviving. Some girls height might be important but to others it doesn’t it’s about the personality and how well you get along. I personally have no problems with height, being above average height compared to other girls, I am usually taller than the guys I am around. Hope this helps! And I hope you find someone that’s just right for you!
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,442 Community Veteran
    BlueIris wrote: »
    @TheNightmare Some advice I can give you is that your better to focus on doing things you enjoy and carrying on with your life and perhaps you will meet someone within those activities. That’s a great way of starting a relationship with a few things in common. Heartbreak is hard but there is a possibility of it, but you can only try your best in a relationship and give it your all. That is the only way that a relationship stands a chance of surviving. Some girls height might be important but to others it doesn’t it’s about the personality and how well you get along. I personally have no problems with height, being above average height compared to other girls, I am usually taller than the guys I am around. Hope this helps! And I hope you find someone that’s just right for you!

    @BlueIris hey thanks for replying and sorry I'm late responding. I think its good advice what you're saying, maybe I might meet someone through common interests and things I enjoy which would be great.
  • BlueIrisBlueIris Inactive Posts: 7 Confirmed not a robot
    @TheNightmare I wish for the best for you. Good luck!
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 4,442 Community Veteran
    BlueIris wrote: »
    @TheNightmare I wish for the best for you. Good luck!

    Thanks a lot mate
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