Grief

Chloe234

Today wouldve been my aunts birthday if we hadnt lost her and i guess i feel a little worse about it than i thought i would. I just miss her so much and she wouldve only have turned 46 or 47 which is still fairly young.
I guess i just gotta try and distract myself though because i need to find the energy to do things like get prepared for college on thursday. I just miss how amazing she was and how she stepped in for a couple years and took care of us like her own when we needed her most.

Former Member

I’m so sorry for your loss Chloe. She was so young and it sounds like she had a good heart and cared about you a lot

Distracting yourself is a good idea but it’s also okay to spend some time thinking about her and how you feel too. 💙

I hope you find some time for yourself today, Chloe. Wishing your aunt a happy heavenly birthday 🤍

sinead276

happy birthday to your aunt - she sounds like she was such an incredible person with a heart of gold. however you feel today is absolutely okay

sending you a big hug

Gemma

I'm really sorry for your loss, Chloe. Losing someone as special as your aunt, especially when she was such an important part of your life, is incredibly hard. It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling this way, especially on her birthday. It sounds like she was an amazing person who made a big impact on your life, stepping in when you needed her the most. That kind of love and care doesn’t just go away - it stays with you, and it’s okay to miss her deeply.

Grief doesn’t have a timeline, and certain days, like today, can bring those feelings to the surface more intensely. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel, there's no need to rush into distracting yourself if you’re not ready. Sometimes just sitting with those emotions and remembering the good times can be a way of honouring her memory.

As you prepare for college on Thursday, try to be gentle with yourself. It’s a big step, and it’s okay to feel a little off balance right now. Maybe you can find a small way to carry her with you as you start this new chapter - whether that’s through a keepsake, a memory, or even just thinking about the strength she showed when she cared for you. That strength is a part of you too.

Chloe234

Thankyou @Slinky @sinead276 and @Gemma