A threesome relationship

Former Member

Hello everyone! What do you think about a long-term threesome relationship? How long can such a relationship last? How can a man love two girls at the same time, and how can two girls 'share' the same man among themselves without jealousy? How sincere is love in such a relationship?
I'm already in such a relationship and I'm just interested in your thoughts on all this. I also talked to an American psychiatrist about this topic. He told me that a man in such a relationship can often choose the 'main' girl and the 'secondary' one. This somewhat confuses me and makes me think about the kind of love between such partners and how long it can be. So.. your thoughts?

Rose113

Hey @XeniAnesty welcome to the mix

I don’t know anything about the topic but this article written by the mix might be of help to you

https://www.themix.org.uk/sex-and-relationships/having-sex/threesomes-3926.html

Former Member

Hey @Rose113 ! Thanks! Nice to meet you
Maybe it's even good that you don't know anything about this topic XD
Anyway, thanks for any information.
The article is good. It contains common questions though answers sounds uncertainly for me. For example, I know a lot of people who claim that threesome relationship can be full of sincere love between all partners, and know other people who claim that such relationship can't be long-term. And question is what is the truth? It sounds rhetorical, huh

Rose113

Im not sure @XeniAnesty the staff team/adults may be of more help :,)

Have you checked the brook website? They have sexual health stuff

Former Member

@Rose113 , oh, thanks, can you drop the link please, I haven't heard about the brook website before

eylah

XeniAnesty wrote: »

@Rose113 , oh, thanks, can you drop the link please, I haven't heard about the brook website before

https://www.brook.org.uk/ there very helpful.

Rose113

https://www.brook.org.uk/ They have lots of stuff on there @XeniAnesty

Former Member

@eylah thanks!

eylah

no worries. rose shared gd advice .

Gemma

Hey @XeniAnesty just chiming in on this

I don't know much about this area to be honest but I've found this article on Brook's website which goes into some more detail around non-monogamous relationships.

In terms of what the psychiatrist mentioned to you, this sounds like hierarchical polyamory where some people have one main partner alongside other relationships that are less of a priority (primary and secondary relationships). This is in comparison to egalitarian polyamory where there isn’t a hierarchy, with each partner considered equal. People in this relationship structure may live together in a triad or quad.

This is what Brook say around non-monogamous relationships:

The question of jealousy is a common one and for many people might be a natural response to a partner having some form of relationship with another person. But people who are polyamorous have challenged this by encouraging the idea of ‘owning’ those feelings or even feeling ‘compersion’ or ‘frubble’. These words have developed to express the opposite of jealousy and refer to the feeling of happiness or joy someone feels when their partner is happy with someone else.

As with monogamous relationships, people in non-monogamous relationships have lots of different ways of managing their relationships. For example, some people want clear rules on how to do their relationship, while others give each other lots of freedom, trusting each other to make good choices. Some people in open relationships tell each other everything, whereas others prefer to keep their various relationships private.

And, of course, people in non-monogamous relationships are just as likely to break the rules and keep secrets as people in monogamous ones.

It might be worth looking into Brook's services and articles some more and hearing from those who have been in that position before.